Even When In Rome

article-2362973-1AD18C76000005DC-547_634x423What I have to say is something most people do not know or readily talk about. Homophobia among Nigerians or Africans in diaspora is of major concern to me. I often hear of young Nigerians who have journeyed far away from home and away from the scourge of homophobia, to a land where they presume they can be free to be themselves and experience a new environment where they can meet people like them, and yet they cannot enjoy this new found freedom, thanks to the increasing number of African or Nigerian communities in the West.

We read about some very hurtful kito experiences in Nigeria and we cringe and sigh with disgust, but a young naïve boy/girl also experiences daily humiliation and gay-related hostility as a student living abroad, afraid of reporting to the authority for fear of being outed to his family back home or fear of rejection from his/her African community. Those who have actually dared to forget whatever ties they have with home and live their lives freely irrespective, deal with threats and name calling, snide remarks and sometimes discrimination when they encounter fellow Nigerians. Continue reading

Lesbian Couple Shocked To Discover Their Address Changed To “Faggots Live Here” On Google Maps

couple2-660x350We don’t know where we’d be without Google maps, and we don’t mean figuratively. We’d still be lost out in the Mojave desert, gas tank creeping perilously low.

And while nearly everyone has a similar experience of being saved by the all-powerful combination of Google and GPS, one North Carolina lesbian couple is understandably outraged at the service.

Jennifer Mann and Jodi McDaniel, their three children and one grandchild live in the small town of Canton, in a house that sits on a private, unnamed drive.

Mann’s son Dakota was at school playing around with Google maps when he discovered something upsetting. The unnamed drive now had a name — the street read “faggots live here.”

The circumstances for the slur remain shrouded in mystery. Did someone hack into Google? Was it a Google employee? Maybe an employee of the county?

Unfortunately, there is no way of knowing. The sign was left on Google for a month before it was finally removed last week.

“We live ordinary lives, just like everybody else,” Mann said. “Now it looks like I’m being a target.”

A Google spokesperson apologized and told the family it would be taken care of.

English hockey team strip naked in fight against homophobia

00Seventeen members of the University of Nottingham hockey team stripped naked to fight homophobia in sports. The team was filmed playing hockey naked, and then talking about discrimination against gays in sports in a video released last week.

The team did the video in collaboration with Voice Your Rights Project, a student group in their school whose mission is for all people “to live in a society in which every person is respected and treated as equals.”

VYRP said they came up with the idea for the guys to strip naked because they knew that would get them more attention. Check out more pics below. Continue reading

When I Write A Poem About Love

g14The truth is…

When I asked you for a Chai latte, what I meant to say was: “I was walking past. I saw you in the window. I only came in here because I had to know what your voice sounded like.”

But instead of saying that, I got really nervous and just ordered the first thing on the menu. I don’t even know what the hoot ‘Chai’ is…or a latte, for that matter.

When God made you, He cussed for the first time. He turned to an angel, gave him a high five and said: “Goddamn, I’m good!”

You are that good looking.

I spent the last five days trying to figure out how I will introduce myself to you properly, and I think I’ve finally figured it out. It’s going to be something like… “Hi.” That’s all I’ve got so far, but I think it’s a good start. Continue reading

Gay Pro Wrestler Darren Young Wishes He’d Come Out Sooner

Darren-Young_0It’s been one year since Darren Young became the first openly gay wrestler in the WWE, and he’s penned a sweet little reflection on the past year.

“Looking back on my life since coming out a year ago only makes me wish I’d had the strength to come out sooner,” he writes. As you’ll recall, his coming-out was a bit of a surprise, even to him. A TMZ mosquito just happened to ask him if there could be a successful gay WWE star, and just like that, Darren was basically like, “Yeah, me.”

“Does it matter to you? Does it change what you think about me?” he said at the time. “I guess if you want to call it coming out; I really don’t know what to say it is but I’m just letting you know. I’m happy with who I am, I’m comfortable with myself, and I’m happy to be living the dream.” Continue reading

That Weird Moment

webster7This is a true story. Incredible, but true.

I’ve always been quiet and reserved, except around very close friends, then I’d be the silly one who would say witty things to make them laugh.

I moved into a neighbourhood in Surulere I didn’t quite like. So I kept to myself all the time. I’d say hello to people on my way out to work and back, but I never stopped to say more than two sentences to anyone. Kept me out of trouble.

One hot Sunday afternoon, a few months after I had moved there, I fell asleep after doing my routine push-ups and planks, and having a cool bath. I forgot to lock the steel protector gate and left my glass sliding door wide open for air to come in, but my curtains were closed, so people couldn’t look in. There was no light, I didn’t intend to sleep, but I enjoyed the cool touch of the afternoon breeze way too much to get up and secure my house. I’d taken a bath earlier, and so after lying on my bed awake for a few moments, I slept off, nude.

And then, I had a dream. Continue reading