Let’s Discuss…about Doing Things Differently

IMG_20150130_143724_4389FOREWORD: I would like to apologize for the two-day hiatus recently experienced here on KD by the admin. This was a consequence of an extenuating circumstance, one which has been resolved, and hopefully will not persist.

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I was recently chatting with a friend, and he let on to me that he believes he’s gay because he grew up with males. There was a custody battle over him when he was a kid in the States, and the judge ultimately let the decision of who he wanted to live with rest with him. Predictably, he chose his mother. Mother soon went on to marry a widower with three sons of his own. The youngest was a year older than my friend, and was his first sexual encounter some years later. These days, he’s still struggling with his sexual identity, and clings to the belief that his homosexuality is a choice he can put away when he’s good and ready. Whenever such a time is.

At the end of his narration, I asked him, “If you could go back to the time when the judge asked you who you’d like to live with, would you change your decision?” Continue reading

‘The Sex Is Continually Off The Chain.’ – Lee Daniels Dishes On His Relationship With Younger Boo

lee-danielsLee Daniels has never shied away from his sexuality since stepping into the mainstream, following the success of such films as Precious, The Butler, and now his Fox show, Empire. But for the first time ever, the 55-year-old critically-acclaimed director is putting it all out there when it comes to his five-year relationship with 33-year-old boyfriend Jahil Fisher and the joys of their union (the sex) as well as the insecurities (the age difference) and what makes their partnership more special than ones he had in the past. Both men were profiled in Out Magazine earlier this month and this is what Daniels had to say about the man by his side and how they make their relationship work.

On what attracted him to Fisher:

“I heard his voice before I saw him, and that’s what attracted me first — the laughter. Then I was blown away by his sense of humor. He’s pure and in the moment, and he doesn’t have a poker face. When he’s happy, it’s like happiness on steroids, and his physical features change if he’s upset. I hide my stuff well — I’ve learned to. But he doesn’t. And he makes me laugh. It’s a completely different mind-set: He introduced me to The Real Housewives of Atlanta and he’s best friends with the Kardashians’ hairstylist. He’s very hip, and he brings all of that into my antiquated way of thinking.” Continue reading

RANTINGS OF A RANDOM (Gay) NIGERIAN (Entry 3)

Blog_Rantings Of A Random (GAY) NigerianMy cousin is visiting and spending some time with me. When she called to tell me that she was coming, I agreed reluctantly, because I did not want to be the Wizard of Oz. What is funny and weird is that, unlike I would have done in the past, I did not go about clearing ‘evidence’ from my house. I do know that if she looks around closely, she’ll probably find a tube of astroglide (which is way better than KY Jelly, by the way) lying around somewhere, and maybe some condoms too. I just did not care and quite frankly, I felt if she found anything and gave me any stress, I’d kick her out. No time.

Now, I am no Bree Van De Kamp, as my bedroom is usually a chaotic mess. However, I thrive in the chaos, and as disorganized as my room often appears to be, I know where everything is. My sweet cousin however thought it wise to clean up my room, and when I got back from work, I practically had a panic attack when I saw the room. All my post-its which I stuck around the room to remind me of stuff to do were all arranged in one part of the room; my notes from Business School were neatly arranged, even though I had scattered and separated them according to modules; my books were stacked neatly, as opposed to the them lying scattered on my desk in the manner I preferred while reading concurrently from them. I totally freaked out and lashed out on her verbally, which I regret in hindsight, as she was only trying to help. This further reminds me why I cannot share my space with someone for life. Continue reading

‘If You Don’t Like Watching Gay Sex On TV, Change The Channel.’ Michael Urie To Billy Crystal

Screen-shot-2015-01-27-at-8.42.26-AMWhile promoting his upcoming new FX series, professional Oscars host Billy Crystal recently launched into a homophobic tirade about all the icky gay sex happening on TV lately, telling Television Critics Association, “Sometimes I think, ‘Ah that’s too much for me.’ Sometimes, it’s just pushing it a little too far for my taste.”

The 66-year-old veteran suffered some criticism for his remarks, and had to double-down.

Now, actor Michael Urie has responded to Crystal’s comments in the best way possible.

Speaking to the blog NewNowNext, the ‘Ugly Betty’ star, Urie said: “I don’t think it’s overexposed. If gay sex on TV is too much for you, change the channel and don’t watch it.”

“I think there is far too much football on TV,” he continued. “But I’m not going around saying they should take football off the air; I’m changing the channel.”

I couldn’t have said it better myself.

‘Why I Lost My Gay Membership.’ Bisexual Porn Star Logan McCree Wants Us To Know

loganThoroughly-inked German porn stud Logan McCree, who mostly disappeared from American porn in the last few years and shacked up with a woman in Scotland, is legitimately bisexual — as he detailed in this interview from 2011.

Back in 2009, when he was a popular Raging Stallion model, McCree was briefly in a monogamous relationship with fellow porn stud Vinnie D’Angelo. Later, he says, he craved the comfort of a woman and then ended up falling in love with a makeup artist.

Lately he appears to be single again, referring to himself and his two dogs as a “pack of three”, touting his health at age 37, and he was recently in an unfortunate car accident from which he survived with minor scrapes and a broken rib.

Perhaps in a bid to gain some Twitter attention (he currently works as a massage therapist, DJ, and actor in the UK, and has this defunct porn site), he’s been detailing the reasons why he “lost his gay membership,” which you can see below. Among them, he’s never been to a Madonna concert (neither have I!), and he likes to lick pussy. Continue reading

BEFORE I DIE

????????????????????????????????????????????????????“Lights would guide you home

And ignite your path

And I will try, to fix you…”

Those are the words of the song I am listening to. It is Fix You by Coldplay, one of my favourite bands. The song is everything at this moment. It isn’t as though I am broken right now, but I feel as though I need to be fixed. My heart is beating, like I’m running from an angry homophobic mob, yet I’m wearing a calm face. I can’t afford to fall apart right now. Besides, my mum thinks she’s Batman, so I can’t give off any emotion to make her suspect something is wrong.

“And I will try… To fix you…” The song’s final words are followed by the soft thrum of a piano. I know it’s a piano because I have listened to the song thirteen times already. Then I look at the time and it is 2: 10 pm. My heartbeat increases. The lab scientist had asked me to come get my result by 2: 00 pm. I’m already dressed in the same clothes I wore to the lab yesterday. I put on my slippers and walk towards the door.

Mum: Bobby, where you dey go? Continue reading