Finishing lineIt’s the end of 2014 and, in keeping with tradition, we cannot fail to be thankful for an eventful year on Kito Diaries. It has been quite a journey, fraught with laughter, misgivings and, of course, drama.

In the past nine months, we’ve had serious fun here, drooled over studs, begged them to do dirty things to us. We have read erotic stories that left us glued to our seats in class or in the office, until the tension in our pants abated.

We have argued about everything from religion to family to sex. We’ve played in the comments section, teased each other and laughed, shared ideas, celebrated birthdays, made new friends, and just done our own thing, away from the hassles of an ignorant world that refuses to accept us. Because we are queer. And this is KD, our channel. Nobody gets to come here and disturb us. Or they get torn to pieces.

It’s not been a perfect year, however.

Tempers have, sometimes, risen and we have fought, hated one another’s guts and said the cruelest things to each other. We have learnt from our conflicts and misconceptions and we have grown.

We have also cried over the most heartrending stories of assault, heartbreak and coping.

But, in everything, we have realised how united we are on the journey to a better life as non-heterosexual persons; that our stories of sex, kito, HIV, boyfriend drama, coming out, marriage, sexuality confusions and religious faith are so connected. Therefore, none of us is alone anymore.

The New Year begins tomorrow. It calls for celebration. In just nine months, we have achieved so much and are set to do even bigger things with this forum. Everyone has been wonderful – thank you so much for a fabulous time out this year! So get out there, enjoy the fireworks, get drunk, pamper yourself, take a man home…and, maybe in 2015, we could actually have that great, big, slutty KD Party!

Happy New Year…

The Perfect Response Gay Magician Derren Brown Gave to shut down a Homophobic Troll

darren-brownDerren Brown is a British illusionist and hypnotist who’s made a name for himself by having an uncanny ability to cut through the chatter to decipher alarmingly personal details from his audience.

He also happens to be gay, a fact which one homophobic Twitter follower, @HossamAlyyy, has only just become aware of. He fired off a series of nasty tweets to Brown, calling him a “sick human being” and a “fuckin faggot” among other uninspired insults.

Here are the Tweets: Continue reading

According To WordPress, KD’s Most Popular Posts Of 2014 Were…

kdTo revisit these posts and stories for a read-through or look-see, click on the links below:


Talk About ‘Coming Out’: David McIntosh ‘Unveiled’ (Read HERE)




Seven Things I Don’t Like About Being A Bottom (Read HERE)

Waitaminute! All these posts are slutty posts! :O The top-five, most popular posts on Kito Diaries are slutty posts?! Kai! Y’all need Jesus on this blog.

Author of Brokeback Mountain Wishes She’d Never Written The Story

brokeback460‘I wish I’d never written the story. It’s just been the cause of hassle and problems and irritation since the film came out. Before the film, it was all right… In Wyoming they won’t read it. A large section of the population is still outraged. But that’s not where the problem was. I’m used to that response from people here, who generally do not like the way I write. But the problem has come since the film. So many people have completely misunderstood the story. I think it’s important to leave spaces in a story for readers to fill in from their own experience, but unfortunately the audience that Brokeback reached most strongly has powerful fantasy lives. And one of the reasons we keep the gates locked here is that a lot of men have decided that the story should have had a happy ending. They can’t bear the way it ends — they just can’t stand it. So they rewrite the story, including all kinds of boyfriends and new lovers and so forth after Jack is killed. And it just drives me wild.

‘They can’t understand that the story isn’t about Jack and Ennis. It’s about homophobia; it’s about a social situation; it’s about a place and a particular mindset and morality. They just don’t get it. I can’t tell you how many of these things have been sent to me as though they’re expecting me to say, ‘Oh great, if only I’d had the sense to write it that way.’ And they all begin the same way — I’m not gay, but?.?.?.? The implication is that because they’re men they understand much better than I how these people would have behaved. And maybe they do. But that’s not the story I wrote. Those are not their characters. The characters belong to me by law.”

— Author Annie Proulx explaining to Paris Review the negative response from some readers to the ending of her short story, Brokeback Mountain, that was adapted into the Academy Award-winning 2005 film

Dear Ex Lover

sad-manWriter’s Note: I had a lover who I thought was the best thing ever that happened to me. Turns out he wasn’t. All through the five months we were together, he had a “significant other”, and I was just the side chick/dude. It hurt when I found out, and the verse below is the expression of my pain.


Dear Ex Lover,

I promise I’ll stop chasing your memory in my dreams.

I’ll stop bringing your name up

Over cups of teas, toast, and loneliness

I will marry a man

And I will lay my heart on his chest

Like red roses on Mahogany caskets

And we shall have a daughter and she’ll have eyes that’ll remind me

That God still believes in second chances. Continue reading

Idris Elba’s Response to the James Bond Casting Rumors

So following the Sony email hack which revealed that the studio bosses are considering Idris Elba to play 007 when Daniel Craig’s contract elapses, there has been quite a furor over the possible decision, both for and against Elba as an appropriate casting choice.

Idris himself came on twitter to respond to the rumours. Check his tweet below.idris

Oh my Idris… So modest… 😀

Anyway, if and when Elba plays James Bond, he’s asked that we not do the THING where we call him the first black James Bond. He pointed out on his Reddit AMA that we didn’t call Sean Connery the Scottish James Bond, or Daniel Craig the blue-eyed James Bond. I’m with him on that, but I do know he will definitely get that label, whether he likes it or not.

Ghosts Of A Boyfriend Past

g35This is a true life story.

I love romance. But the harsh realities of my relationships have never really indulged my fanatic belief of romance. My best friend, Chuka once told me, “Look, you need to give up your empty dreams of idyllic romance which never come to pass. There are lots and lots of guys whose thirst is real, why tie yourself down in a boring relationship when you can sample all the treats you want?”

I had no answer to Chuka, because in a weird way, I knew he was right. Nevertheless, I waited for Mister Perfect.

And so, one day in mid–September last year, I was walking to one of the banks on campus with Chuka.

And then, I saw him.

Till today, I still wonder how such a seemingly perfect encounter could eventually turn out to be such a disaster. He was the embodiment of all I had been dreaming of for years; it was like the gods had seen the desire of my dreams and sent him forth as the perfect answer to my deepest yearnings. He was almost as tall as I am, dark, slightly built, perfect white teeth revealed in a smile, with a cute butt on full display. My heart did several flip flops as I saw him walking out the bank gates at the exact same moment Chuka and I were walking in.

He and Chuka exchanged a warm greeting; it was apparent that they were friends. I simply stared mutely like a moron. Chuka made the introductions. His name was David and he owned and ran a luxury boutique quite close to the campus. He was at the bank to collect some cash for restocking his store.

I could barely conceal my eagerness and excitement till he had taken his leave. A few moments after he had left us, I blurted out, “Jeez, Chuka, who is that guy!” Continue reading

What They Say V

You know how gay men sometimes say stupid things concerning the issue of homosexuality? Well, I have just seen the stupidest thing said, a Facebook update in a closed LGBT group, the kind of post that makes you vacillate between irritation, annoyance, scorn and amusement. Yes, a lot of emotions right there. Check on it below, and you’ll understand what I mean.say