LIFE AS HE KNOWS (Chapter 7)

“So, how was it?” Tunde heard Kola say as his colleague grabbed a chair to sit beside him in the office. The air conditioner had a fault and the fans were not doing much to help with the heat. Tunde had his tie loosened and a button of his shirt undone.

“How was what?” he asked, not removing his eyes from his laptop.

“Your date,” Kola whispered.

Tunde wished Kola would keep all this kind of talk for outside the office. But then again he hardly talked to the guy outside the office.

“My date? With who?” He feigned ignorance.

“You know who,” Kola said impatiently.

“Guy abegi, it wasn’t a date,” Tunde said dismissively. “It was just two people hanging out.”

“Isn’t that what a date is? Now tell me how it was. Did you like it? I told you he’s a real keeper.”

The Biggest Thing To Come Out Of Apple…

…And it’s not IOS8 or Yosemite.

It’s Tim Cook.

Apple’s Tim Cook has publicly come out as gay, saying he is proud and considers it “among the greatest gifts God has given me.”

Writing in Businessweek, the chief executive said that while he has never denied his sexuality, he hadn’t publicly acknowledged it either.

“So let me be clear: I’m proud to be gay, and I consider being gay among the greatest gifts God has given me,” he wrote.

“Being gay has given me a deeper understanding of what it means to be in the minority and provided a window into the challenges that people in other minority groups deal with every day. It’s made me more empathetic, which has led to a richer life,” he added.

TEENAGE POEMS: VIRGO

The strong virile sweetness

In a kiss, hand on hair, skin against skin

Love known in two hearts

Beauty of man loving flows

Souls entwining in secret song

Lips touch lips, limbs excite limbs

And sweet desire, fulfillment, titillation

Suffuse our writhing forms

Take me, my love, in your arms

Kiss me deep and long

Forever place your soft lips against mine

Cheeks fine, light stubble divine

And brand me to be yours for all time.

Written by Pink Panther

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Preach!

How To Be Better at Bottoming

Originally published on tabsattractorfactor.wordpress.com

Have you ever looked at gay porn and thought, “How can they make bottoming look so easy?” A hung top sticks it in like a glute inject and the bottom doesn’t even flinch. Bottoming isn’t just about the physical sensation of being penetrated, it’s the emotional high of accepting someone else’s presence in your body. It’s the psychological thrill of being momentarily “owned,” of submitting yourself to the strength of another man.

This is the single biggest emotional stumbling block gay men have about bottoming—being labeled less than a man. For many of us, bottoming isn’t an opportunity to enjoy a pleasurable sexual experience but an act that threatens our sense of masculinity and the respect that goes with it. Many gay men believe that if they bottom, they will become “a bottom.” They fear that bottoming will create a new unwanted identity for them. It just may be that you haven’t been able to bottom (or been able to enjoy it) because you have so many emotional issues around the act. If you can get away from the falsehood of bottoming as an identity and see it for what it is—an erotic activity—the more relaxed and receptive you will be.

‘I want a kid, a husband and a dog…’ – says singer Sam Smith

Twenty-two-year-old British singer, Sam Smith says he wants domesticity.

The breakout star on the global music scene this year, with the massive hit ‘Stay with me,’ recently opened up about the subject in an interview with Teen Vogue.

He even admitted that some days, he feels like breaking down and crying right there on stage. ‘I stand onstage and I wanna cry for the entire thing because people know my business. You all know me. You can read as many interviews as you want, but if you put on my record, I’m telling you, that is me,’ he said.

Smith revealed that part of his debut-album was inspired by love gone wrong. ‘I fell in love with someone last year, and he didn’t love me back,’ he shared. ‘I deleted him off Whatsapp, and it felt like I’d just broken up with him. On the record, you can hear heartbreak, and there’s a beauty in it that I will always treasure.’

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Yup, the world keeps getting more and more ridiculous by the day. But hey, if there’s any Kitodiariesian feeling a smidgen of internalized homophobia, well, here’s your chance to cure yourself. 😀

KARMA 2.0

There are those days when everything just goes south and you have a very shitty day. But just when you think it’s the worst day possible, something happens that makes you smile that evil grin. I had one of those days recently, but before I tell you the story, please journey with me down memory lane.

I was posted to Rivers State for my NYSC (scratch that, I got myself posted to Rivers State), and I was in for a fun year. I was young and I wanted to explore the “deep, round riches” of the Garden City. There was this weekend someone buzzed me on Badoo, I looked up his profile and he was this cute, young guy. I responded, we took it to BBM, and four hours later, I was in a cab going to his uncle’s house where he was staying. (Shut up, don’t judge me)

We had the best night ever (or so I thought); we went out for drinks, came home drunk and horny, and then we did the nasty over and over. In the morning, it was great waking up to entwined arms and the feeling of satiation, and I reluctantly got up to get dressed and leave. An hour later, I got home, sank into bed and retrieved my Blackberry to ping him.

“Thanks for a good time,” I pinged. My message didn’t deliver. Alas, he was no longer on my BBM. Bitch had deleted me!

How To Be Better At Topping

Originally published on tabsattractorfactor.wordpress.com

For formality’s’ sake, a top is the partner doing the penetration during anal sex – this label is limited explicitly to sexual roles and says nothing about perceived masculinity or dominance in bed. Gay men usually seek to define their sexual role with labels like top, bottom and versatile to indicate their inclinations when it comes to penetration. With that out the way, here are some tips on becoming better at topping.

Relax and Arouse your partner

There’s a lot more to sex then just putting your penis in and humping until the point of orgasm, there’s a certain finesse that comes with being a good top. The first priority should always be getting your partner aroused and relaxed enough to enjoy sex. Pay attention to his body language, if your partner is nervous and tense, the overall experience might be less than rewarding. Stay above the belt and consider kissing and lighting touching or licking erogenous zones on his body.

Stimulating the neck sends signals to the circulatory system stimulating blood flow and excitement, so try lightly kissing and stroking the nape of the neck, the back of the neck or the ears. The most popular zone for most men is the chest, particularly – the nipples. However, some men might have ultra sensitive nipples while others might not enjoy having their nipples played with, go slow and listen to his body, and if you don’t know his opinion on nipple play, ask him.

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Again, I refuse to be held responsible for this. Y’all don’t look at me, look at Dennis Macaulay. He’s the one who can’t resist photographing the butt-cracks of these mechanics who just can’t seem to belt it up.