Let’s Discuss…About Open Relationships

It’s a question of which is better: an exclusive relationship or an open one. Sounds like a no-brainer, right? The answer is pretty obvious. I mean, who wants to share his man with another?

I was having a dialogue with a good friend of mine on the issue of gay relationships, and he expressed an opinion on this, which I’d like to share with y’all. Read below:

‘Seriously, think about it. Exclusive relationships, especially in the gaybourhood, even more especially in Nigeria, on the average, have a shelf life of two months. If you have on the very rare occasion dated someone EXCLUSIVELY for a year, you become a miracle.

‘Open relationships on the other hand, at least the few ones I know of, strangely last longer than the exclusive ones. Think about it. I mean, it should not be! Yet, it is!

Quick Question: Who Stole Lupita’s Oscar Dress?

The question on everyone’s lips: Who stole Lupita Nyong’o’s Oscar dress?

Made with 6,000 pearls and valued at $150,000, Calvin Klein’s custom creation for the actress was taken from her room at the London Hotel West Hollywood on Wednesday, and returned two days later. Who on Earth could have possibly done that?

Here, our list of suspects:

Well, It Seems Zachary Quinto Has Joined The Gay Bachelors Anonymous

Where’s Dennis, president of the Gay Bachelors Anonymous? Zachary Quinto would like validation of his membership card.

In a new interview with The Hollywood Reporter, actor Zachary Quinto opened up about his feelings on love and marriage. And guess what? He’s not the marrying type.

“I personally am not a huge fanatic of marriage,” the 37-year-old rabble rouser said. “Commitment and relationships are a very individual thing, and I don’t stand to tell other people what to do or who to do it with, but for me, love is defined by two people in an intimate and personal way, and superimposing an institution on that isn’t necessarily, for me, the most exciting idea.”

But don’t think that means he’s not all for marriage equality. He is. He just doesn’t want to get gay married himself.

SUITS AND TIES (Part 4)

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The whole world goes on and on about love. Poets spend their lives writing about it. Everyone thinks it’s the most wonderful thing. But when you mention two guys in love, they forget all that and freak out.

Mark A. Roeder said that, and my co-workers are a classic example of a people who freak out when the contemplation of gay people becomes an issue at work. They don’t go bat-shit crazy. They simply spout lots of vitriol, most of it fed by their ignorance and blind loathing.

Sick, cursed, possessed by demonic spirits…

How can a normal person put his thing inside someone else’s ass…

Useless people, going about bribing famous people to say they’re gay…

Yes. It’s incredible, but my co-workers actually believe that part of the LGBT activism is to pay celebrities an unspecified amount of money, or cut deals with them, so that they can claim to be out and proud in order to influence the public to accept or tolerate homosexuality. One of my female colleagues claims to still be heartbroken over and disbelieving of Wentworth Miller’s coming out. To her, the Prison Break star is just too good-looking not to fancy women. Apparently, the gay movement is either highly manipulative or quite influential enough to convince ‘heterosexual’ celebrities to take on the risk of faking their gayness for our cause.

The Straight Guy Who Freaked Out After Accidentally Visiting Gay Bathhouse

“First off, I am happily married with a kid, and I’m completely naive,” begins one overcompensating Reddit user in a post filed in the “Today I Fucked Up” forum.

The anonymous family man’s chosen handle should be enough to tell where this story is headed — “not-gay-throwaway.”

So how exactly did he “fuck up?”

“I have back problems. Once and a while it gets really bad and sometimes the only way to relieve my pain is by using a Jacuzzi. I don’t own one. It was really killing me today. So I looked around for a spa with a Jacuzzi. I find one.”

Who doesn’t enjoy a nice rejuvenating soak? Innocent enough.

“Go in pay the money. Everything seems cool. Take off my clothes, put a towel around my waist, wash and get in the Jacuzzi. I’m feeling relaxed, and back is feeling much better. I decide to have a look around. There’s a sauna room. It’s completely dark, but I think, ‘Hey. I hate bright lights when I’m trying to relax.’”

You know who else hates bright lights? People hooking up in public spaces. Like a bathhouse. But OK, if he’s really as naive as he says he is, we’re going to give him the benefit of the doubt.

That Piece About The Shag-fish

I read the following write-up originally published on sagbachronicles.com, and I laughed so hard, even as I realized afresh that the gay community worldwide is basically just the same, with the same dynamics and plagued by the same afflictions. The non-fictional piece was penned by the Nigerian owner of the blog, keredim. You’d love it as I did, and you’d remember – as I did – your own examples. Do share with us in the comments section when you recall them. 🙂

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Catfish.  A guy named Nev starts an online relationship with an attractive lady called Megan on Facebook. Feelings begin to develop between Nev and Megan. As a token of affection, Megan sends Nev mp3 song covers, which Nev subsequently discovers are performances from YouTube. This is just one of the many distortions from Megan which Nev discovers that prompts him to seek her out. Nev travels to Michigan from New York to meet Megan and confront her on these irregularities. It turns out when Nev arrives at her front door, she looks nothing like she does on her Facebook page. Nev is devastated.   After unpicking the tangled web of untruths, we discover “Megan” may or may not exist and the real name of the person behind the Facebook page is Angela – or is it? All the drama is filmed on camera by Nev’s brother and his buddy and made into a documentary.  This was aired and it became a critical and commercial success.

Will Smith thinks Denzel Washington is sexy

Will Smith thinks Denzel Washington is a ”sexy man”.

The ‘Focus’ actor finds it ”weird” that people think he is sexy and insists there are other actors who are much more hunky.

He said: ”It really is it’s a strange thing to be considered. When I think sexy, I look at Denzel Washington…Now that’s a sexy man! You know, I never thought of myself in that way, so it’s fun.”

The 46-year-old star claims he was a ”late bloomer” who only saw his physique change in his late twenties. He told talk show host Ellen DeGeneres: ”I was a late bloomer. Probably right around 26 or 27 years old, I started to fill out a little bit…I’ve always been skinny…But, I grew into my ears, I guess you could say.”

‘It’s time for gay people to fight for women’s rights.’ – Patricia Arquette

After her Oscar win, Patricia Arquette urged gay people to fight for women’s rights as a means to return the favour for fighting for LGBT rights.

The Oscars was not just a night for the big winners to collect the coveted awards, many used their win to give impassioned speeches about political issues. Patricia Arquette was one of the stars who chose to speak about women’s rights.

Arquette, who won the Best Supporting Actress award for her role in Boyhood, called on gay people and people from ethnic minorities to join the fight for women’s rights. She claimed that women had fought for their rights and it was time that they helped fight for women.

During her acceptance speech, which was met with an excited reaction from Meryl Streep, Arquette called on support for her cause, claiming women had “fought for everybody else’s equal rights.”

RANTINGS OF A RANDOM (Gay) NIGERIAN (Entry 7)

I had a really long day and I just wanted to get home and pass out. The demon that is Port Harcourt traffic had other plans for me, as nearly all my access routes were locked down and I was stuck. My mom still hadn’t called me, so I supposed the idiotic cousin has not said anything to her, and I was happy I didn’t have to deal with that drama at the moment. I just pulled into Ada George Road, singing along to Mikka’s Love You When I’m Drunk, when my phone beeped. And it was my uncle – yes, the father to the idiotic cousin. I increased the volume of my music, and then answered the call.

Me: Good evening, sir.

Nosy Uncle: Good evening, my dear, how are you?

Me: I am fine, thank you.

NU: Where you are? It is quite noisy.

Me: *increasing the volume again* Yes, it’s quite noisy here. Can I call you later, sir?

NU: NO! (As if he knew I had no such plan) I want to see you in Onitsha this weekend! (He was shouting over the music)

Me: I take classes during the weekends, so it may not be possible. (Big lie. All my classes are virtual; I can take them anytime)

NU: So when will you make it?

Me: I really can’t say now, but I will work out something and call you. (Right!)

Dear KD: He Wants To Dance, And We Wish He Won’t

This is going to be a very unpopular ask for advice. I know that, having been a part of this forum for some time now. But I still have to ask anyway. It isn’t in my interest. It is in the interest of my very close friend.

This friend of mine is effeminate, a typical example of Alex Newell from Glee, and his femininity can be perceived five blocks away from him. And because of it, he has never being too far from scandals.

He once participated in a freestyle dance at our school’s inter-faculty dance contest. He rocked his body like Beyoncé and Shakira combined, and of course he won the contest, right along with heavy and scornful speculation of his sexuality. Those of us who are his close friends weren’t spared; we also came under the fierce, unfriendly scrutiny of the speculation.

Fast forward two years later, and he wants to represent his faculty officially at the upcoming inter-faculty dance competition. And yes, he is all set to rock some nasty moves. We, his friends, do not want ‎him to dance, because he has too many baggage and we don’t want him to incur more of it. He seems adamant to go ahead with the dance. We are worried, and I would like some direction on what we should do from you guys. Thanks.

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