Those Awkward Moments When You’re A Bisexual Guy

o-BISEXUALITY-STUDY-facebookWhy can’t you just pick one…

But you’re like actually gay, right?

You’re so greedy. I mean, leave some for the rest of us

These are just a few of the indignations that bisexual guys must suffer in the hands of the rest of us.

Like every other marginalized group, bisexuals are no stranger to awkward assumptions and invasive questions. So BuzzFeed decided to highlight “17 Bisexual Guy Problems”!!

Check them out and tell us if you identify!

Any other bisexual guy problems you’d like to get off your chest? Sound off!

 

“Only Jealous Boyfriends Call Me Gay.” Pop Star Shayne Ward Says

ShayneWard-NEWS1‘I get called gay all the time. Normally, from a jealous boyfriend of a girl who’s a fan or a group of guys in a pub shouting at me because I’m a pop star. It doesn’t bother me. I am very thick skinned and can handle situations very well. Plus half of the idiots shouting abuse are probably hiding in the closet and fancy me as well. Ha! I’ve always known I was straight, thanks to my brother’s collection of magazines. I love boobs. If I were gay, my family is amazing and wouldn’t shut out anyone. They’d never have a problem if any of my family said they were gay. Only welcoming arms full of love!”

–Pop singer and X Factor winner Shayne Ward in an interview with Attitude magazine

Let’s Discuss…About The Stereotypes We Perpetuate (Part 2)

Blog_Let's DiscussThere are several stereotypes that society labours under. And as it is with every particular community of people, the LGBT community suffers its share. But, as it has been plentifully pointed out in this blog, we are not without our own faults. Our sexuality does not save us from the common flaws the rest of humanity suffers. And so, we also tend to stereotype other people based on their sexual natures.

This topic was actually prompted by a comment someone made on the post about the father who discovered his teenage son was gay and did all he could to ensure that his son realizes that he accepts him just as he is. It is noteworthy that the father admitted to having once had sexual relations in the past.

Now, I’m not disparaging anyone, certainly not the commenter whose comment I’m about to bring up. This is entirely for the sake of educating us. His comment goes thus: ‘But the father is gay, that’s why he accepted the boy the way he did. That he stopped fucking men doesn’t make him straight.’ Continue reading

‘I could meet a guy’: The Hunger Games star Josh Hutcherson says he’s open to dating men

Josh Hutcherson 01Josh Hutcherson gets to meet good-looking men all the time, so the temptation is certainly there.

The 21-year-old star of The Hunger Games – and gay rights supporter – let it be known that the lines are blurred when it comes to his personal game of love.

Although Josh is leaning on the ‘straight’ side, he prefers to keep his mind wide open and even admits in the November issue of Out Magazine that he’s attracted to the same sex.

‘I would probably list myself as mostly straight,’ Josh begins, adding: ‘Maybe I could say right now I’m 100 percent straight. But who knows? In a fucking year, I could meet a guy and be like, “Whoa, I’m attracted to this person.”‘

In his profession, the likelihood of working with gorgeous girls and guys is a given. Continue reading

Does Everyone Want Sex?

FOREWORD: It turns out there’s being a mistake ongoing here on KD. A new commenter who inadvertently chose his blog pseudonym to be ‘king’ isn’t the ‘king’ we already know here on KD. He’s a different person, for those of you who have been over-familiarizing with him. Lol. My advice to this new ‘king’? Change your pseudonym. The other king appears to be away from KD due to some, uh, unfortunate circumstances. But we wanna know when he returns and not mix up our relations with either of you. 🙂

And now to today’s feature piece.

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singles 23I once looked up ‘sexuality’ on Wikipedia. Wikipedia identifies four forms of sexuality: homosexuality, heterosexuality, bisexuality and asexuality. The last one is a pseudo-type class, in that one can be gay and asexual, straight and asexual, or bi and asexual.

I identify myself as a gay asexual or, as I like to call myself, a homo-romantic asexual. This means I can see myself being in a romantic relationship with another guy, but never in a sexual one. I’ve met quite a number of guys who say I’m ‘forming’ or pretending. These guys (and a lot more out there) refuse to believe the established fact that some people (yes, even gay guys) are just not interested in sex. Some other people say I’m too untrusting, or that I’m scared of getting hurt.

A few times in my life, I decided to loosen up a little and try some things. Most guys I’ve met refused to believe me when I say that the farthest I’ve gone with another guy is a blowjob. And during those blowjobs, all I kept thinking was, “How do people enjoy this thing, why can’t I feel anything, how do I tell him this poor guy to stop?” The first time lasted all of ten seconds before I told the guy to stop. The second was about a minute, with a guy I really liked. The third and last time lasted more than five minutes because I thought maybe if I kept at it, I may actually start to enjoy it. Continue reading

Ten Things The Christian Learned About Gay People in Ten Years (Part 2)

7c623122Jesus talked about equality a lot; it made the powerful quite uncomfortable.

Written by Kathy, and originally published on canyonwalkerconnections.com

6. ASKING GAY PEOPLE TO DENY THEIR NATURAL SEXUAL ORIENTATION IS DESTRUCTIVE. Recall, homosexual orientation is no more a “behavior” than is heterosexual attraction.  Both are orientations, innate attractions. Reparative therapy (Exodus-type programs that offer results that take away “unwanted sexual attractions” or allude to a gay-to-straight conversion) treats homosexuality as if it were a “behavior” akin to other life choices like drug and alcohol usage, adultery, cheating and lying.

You would expect that the elimination of bad behaviors would result in life benefits.  However, if you force a gay person to “not be gay,” loneliness, depression, isolation and shame can result.

Some gay people do make a choice to live celibate lives.  This is called “Side B” for gay Christians; they come to a personal conviction that God is calling them to be celibate. This is not the same as the imposition of celibacy by an outsider for acceptance before God. Celibacy does not take away attraction; it only means a person is not engaging in sex. A celibate straight person is not “no longer straight” simply because they are not being sexual.  Likewise, a celibate gay person is not “no longer gay” simply because they are not being sexual. Continue reading

Ten Things The Christian Learned About Gay People in Ten Years

7c623122“God, is the truth as I understand it about being gay and Christian Your truth?”

Written by Kathy, and originally published on canyonwalkerconnections.com

In 2001, if you had asked me, “Kathy, can you be gay and Christian?”  I would have hedged a bit and fallen on the side of “No”.  I did not have any close relationships with gay people nor had I ever studied the issue in the Bible.  I did not even know one gay Christian that I knew of.  It was from this paradigm that I formulated my opinions about the lives of gay people and made assumptions about their status with God.  All that changed when I met Netto on a hiking trail.  It is now ten years later and I offer ten things that I wish straight people, especially Christians, knew about gay people.

People who do not understand the views of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people are not all bigots; and people who are fully affirming in their support of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people are not all heretics.  This conversation often is relegated to love and hate, right and wrong, but there is a wide expanse between the two sides.  And that middle group is, for the most part, silent.  You are the ones to whom I am offering these insights, from experience, knowledge, study, relationship and with a genuine interest in engaging the too-often-silent middle.

With Bible in hand and in spirit, an open mind and heart and a willingness to listen to people, I entered the conversation that often brings out the worst in people.  I hope to inspire you to move and to speak up with the Jesus-voice inside you. Continue reading