From a Homosexual to the Forerunner of CHANGE

Screenshot - 5_7_2015 , 8_30_16 AMWe are born on the back of angels with broken wings and hearts that match perfectly

Our spirits have been rocked to sleep by the arms of an oppressive system

That steals pieces of our sexuality every time we blink our eyes

We are walking narcoleptics

We are sleepwalkers

Waiting to be touched

Waiting to be woken up

Waiting for somebody to care

Waiting to care about ourselves

And the people with physical features that closely resemble our own. Continue reading

HIS KITO STORY (EDITION 15)

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My name is Noah. I have always been a man of caution, threading carefully wherever I go, keeping my professional life separate from my personal life. I have being visiting Nigeria at least once or twice a year for work since the early 1980s. And in the course of my trips, I have amassed a handful of friends and acquaintances, both for business and pleasure. And both my business engagements and pleasure trysts had never given me any cause for concern, worry or disconcertion.

That is, until a trip I made to Nigeria in 2013.

I am a forty-nine-year-old bisexual British man, married with a lovely wife and son. Whenever I am back at home in the UK, I focus all my time and energy on my family. However when I am away for work, I try to indulge in a bit of fun with guys.

So it was on a trip to Lagos, I logged on to my gayromeo account and set my location to Lagos; that way I would be able to arrange a meet with a guy in my hotel when I was free.

And I did meet someone. Continue reading

No Strings With Mike Daemon (Episode 8)

Episode 8 posterIt is no news that a homosexual person in Nigeria faces the threat of 14 years imprisonment.

Homosexuality in Nigeria is perceived to be western induced; its omission from the African culture list has been used as a defense to say that homosexuality in Nigeria is invalid. A large number of people believe that this proves that homosexuality was never present in Nigeria, and that it was copied from the western world.

Homosexuality is a taboo they say, something destructive and demonic and unnatural. Some say it’s just a bad habit that needs to be abolished, and to do this, jailing became the ONLY OPTION to help re-orient the minds of ‘infected’ persons into becoming proper men/women.

But does the prescribed law bring about an actual desired change? Is it necessary? What about those who actively persecute suspected members of the Nigerian LGBT community? Who is the criminal? Who is the victim? Who really should be jailed?

#NoStrings tries really hard to logically answer these questions and many more, as well provide clarity on certain issues concerning the LGBT community in Nigeria.

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A MILESTONE TODAY

KD Anniversary 1Every act is a possibility. The will to dare, the will to act are possibilities for new adventure. – Lailah Gifty Akita

When the antigay bill was signed into law last year, the act stirred this country in a way it had never been in quite a long time. There were those who cheered. And there were those who grieved. The blogosphere, as was with all other forums of human contact, became alive with contentions, people and opinion split into several camps. And the mainstream blog I was operating at the time was not left out.

In the aftermath of the law’s signage, I experienced a gamut of emotions. First I was sad. Then I was afraid. Then I became angry. And I penned my anger and blogged it. I welcomed pro-gay articles from acquaintances and published those as well. And then, we took up arms and went to battle against the antigay majority in the comments section. Continue reading

The Question About Visibility And Gay Nigerians

On Whisper, I hold back nothing. There’s a certain freedom that comes with anonymity, and I relish it on the app. So when I’m happy, sad, frustrated, horny, reflective, whether it has anything to do with my existence as a gay man or not, I put it out there. And oftentimes, depending on how outrageous my update is, some Whisperers buzz me and engage me in conversations surrounding what update had caught their attention.

I recently posted something about the frustration of wild gay sex at night being the morning after, when you’d have to clean up the bedroom. And some dude buzzed me. In the course of our conversation, the following was what ensued. Continue reading

ALERT! Kito Diaries Has Been Discovered!

By a straight guy apparently. Lol. Literally. ‘Straight Man’ is his pseudonym. Apparently, even heterosexual persons need pseudonyms to comment on a gay blog. Lol. He didn’t comment on any post, instead he dropped his comment on KD’s About Page. And he must have gone through some of the posts, a testament of the brilliance of KD writers, because he had some things to say. (Relax, KD warriors. He wasn’t vitriolic. So, be nice. lol).Screenshot - 4_11_2015 , 8_11_08 AM

You hear that, KDians? Focusing your good literary skills on writing on LGBT issues is not a sign of positivity. Find a Sunday School project, something political, the weather, the change coming to Nigeria – any of these things should you write on. Forsake all writings about your sexuality. 🙂

What’s On Your Mind… II

Blog_What's On Your MindSince you asked ever so nicely, I have to admit, I’m surprised I made it again so soon. I never thought I’d be able to put anything down so soon after the last – I am LAZY, I’ll be the first to admit it to anyone who can hear. I know it’s more than a week since my last, but even I am surprised that this was able to come this quickly. I still marvel at how Pinky, James, Bobby and DM are able to churn out high quality work on a regular basis and still find time to lead their lives. Una too mush *in thick Warri accent*

So, guys, here goes.

A few days ago, upon a sudden urge, I went back to 2go – a thing I hadn’t done in like four years. About 4 or 5 years ago, 2go was the hookup app of choice. This was a time when blackberries were not as ubiquitous as they subsequently became, and a time when data was not really as cheap as it is today (at least on the blackberry). And so, I had this sudden brainwave that led me to take a peep into 2go, and so I logged on, realized I’d long ago forgotten my password and went through the password reset and recovery motions. Eventually I was in. Continue reading

‘I Want To Own My Story.’ – Bisi Alimi

celebs 53In December last year, Bisi Alimi joined other global LGBT activists to speak at the New York City public library to mark 2014 Human Rights. His talk titled “My name is Bisi Alimi and I am not a victim” has been adjudged as one of the most moving talks of the day.

The talk was released a couple of days ago, and because I believe his talk will help support others, mostly Africa LGBT people who might be struggling with the challenges they are facing, I had to share.

Check out the video of Bisi’s talk below.

BEFORE I DIE: 9 (The Doctor’s Appointment 2)

????????????????????????????????????????????????????It is my second doctor’s appointment. I had woken up early, but am just too lazy to leave the bed. Maybe, it’s because I know the hospitals are still on strike, and there is a 50/50 chance my time is just going to be wasted again.

Besides, I’ll be leaving Benue State soon. I have just completed my National Youth service year. I don’t want to go through the process of enrolling for treatment here, and then repeating the whole thing when I return home in Asaba.

I grab my phone to say hello to my twitter followers, and – yes, to observe my dick-pic-watching routine. If you’re lucky, you could even get to see short videos, amateur videos to be precise. I start watching my dick pics, when NEPA brings their yeye light back. That is when I know I am not going anywhere today.

Then, I think about calling Batman, to let her know that I won’t be going to the hospital, before she starts bombarding me with questions. I call over three times, and she doesn’t pick up. Then I call my sister. Continue reading