The Issue Of Too Many Skins On Skin

g45The gay community has developed quite the reputation for promiscuity over the years. It wasn’t long ago that homosexuality was a shameful, unspeakable evil, best left to anonymous trysts in public restrooms. The idea that gays were even capable of having relationships was completely foreign. Through the mid 1970’s homosexual behaviour was thought to be the result of a psychological disorder, and that those who engaged in them were incapable of love the same way heterosexuals are.

Because of this, the ideas of same sex behaviour and homosexual orientation were separated, a notion that conservative Christians still champion as “love the sinner, hate the sin.” And the gay community has done little in the way of a cohesive voice to alter these perceptions. The debate continues as people ask if gays are even capable of monogamy, and liberal outlets are championing promiscuity as a defining feature of what it means to be gay. Continue reading

‘Bisexuality and Monogamy Aren’t “Mutually Exclusive”.’ – Anna Paquin

Anna-Paquin-True-Blood-la-sortie-du-placard_portrait_w532True Blood star, Anna Paquin came out as bisexual in 2010 and is crusading against the crude stereotypes about those who identify as bisexual – or gay, lesbian, transgender, or otherwise.

Paquin spoke about her own sexuality and her relationship to husband Stephen Moyer. In recognition of LGBT Pride Month, she tweeted in June, “Proud to be a happily married bisexual mother. Marriage is about love not gender.”

“There’s people that are going to probably go to their grave thinking whatever they think about the LGBT community,” she said in the interview with HuffPost Live. “That’s their problem, not mine. And there’s people that think that monogamy and bisexuality are mutually exclusive. Again, their problem not mine.”

The X-Men star has been married to Moyer, 44, since August 2010. They got engaged in August 2009 after meeting on the set of the HBO series True Blood.

“The reason I feel like it’s important to talk about this stuff is that the more normal and, frankly, mundane and boring this stuff becomes, I think the better it’s going to be for everyone who is part of our community,” Paquin added.

UNFAITHFUL 2: BOYFRIEND

African-Amerian-man-thinkingGay models

In my last Unfaithful article, I proposed a theory that maybe the reason most gay men find it difficult going mono is because we grew up without models of ourselves in the media and families around us. And I said that maybe if we’d been raised to see that gayness (like straightness) has a future beyond a few fucks here and there, most gays would slip on the responsibility garb quicker and easier and look to settle down. Even now, many homosexuals I know have hopes of eventually “quitting” (like it’s a career or habit) to get married to a woman. (Note that even in the US where there’s freedom, I still think many gay men alive grew up without these models; after all, the 1950s and 1980 – gay rights and AIDS respectively thingz – are still within living memory. Maybe in a 100 years, this situation will readjust.) Continue reading