In this episode, NOSTRINGS joins up with Stephen Lovatt, a gay English Catholic and a writer of poetry, philosophy and theology, to discuss the subject “Speaking Out, Gaining Courage and Overcoming Fear”. This of course touches on issues concerning homosexuality in general, and as well logically differentiates between tolerance and acceptance. It also identifies and discusses reasons why the international community is refusing to sanction certain countries that has gone ahead to criminalize same sex relationships, and above all suggests possible approaches that one could adopt especially in the area of being able to speak up against discrimination as it concerns LGBTIQ persons.
Wondering if it is possible to merge your strong Christian faith with your sexuality? Well, in this episode, Elizabeth Funke Obisanya, an LGBTIQ minister and filmmaker best known for her film Magda’s Lesbian Lover (usually referred to as MLL), talks and deals profoundly with issues concerning faith and sexuality; augmenting it with some of her own personal experiences. She also takes us briefly back into the history of Christianity, Religion and Africa (Nigeria).
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In this episode, NOSTRINGS catches up with Seyi Adebanjo, a queer, gender non-conforming Nigerian, in the discussion of gender related issues. ‘They’ speak on the reasons why ‘they’ do not exactly identify as either male or female in its entirety, the challenges that comes with changing one’s identity, sometimes having to live a double life, what it means to be gay, dealing with the hate, and how people constantly confuses ‘them’ for something else or try really hard to gender ‘them’ up. We are taken humorously along on their journey of transition.
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In this episode, NOSTRINGS talks with Teflondon (not real name), a Nigerian gay man who got dramatically outed by his then lover, following a series of trouble, even involving the police. Consequent to this was his apprehension and lock-up by the police, and upon his bail, the distrust of his family.
Ever since then, he has been doing his best to deal with his own personal issues and to find his balance again, and as well trying to understand life from a whole new different perspective.
NOSTRINGS had the privilege of talking to this young man, as he details his struggles and challenges and takes us deep into his life and how he now deals with his family’s constant pressure to change.
In this episode, Olumide F. Makanjuola, the Executive Director of TIERS Nigeria, discusses with NOSTRINGS. He talks about and affirms his stand with the Nigerian LGBT Community, exposing new projects, touches on the infamous law, and as well goes personal with his experience as an LGBT Rights Activist.
Olumide answers tough, critical and vital questions on issues affecting the lives of LGBT Nigerians, and what could possibly be done to improve upon the way people handle sensitive issues like homosexuality, transsexuality, lesbianism and more…
Adejoke Tugbiyele is a Nigerian who currently lives in the US. She first came out in Nigeria on CNN in January 19 2014. In this episode, Adejoke Tugbiyele chronicles her life again, talks about her struggles, coming out, achievements, as well takes us on her journey so far.
In 2013, Adejoke Tugbiyele decided to infuse her work with her very person, crafting beautiful masterpieces that reflected her passion as an artist and how she sees life. This single gesture transformed her to an activist for the Nigerian LGBT Community and beyond.
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A lack of information could make people sometimes ask or make stupid, crazy, and annoying questions or remarks. And when this happens, we feel like – Aarrgh! Wish I could just squeeze life out of this bozo! But the truth is that, sometimes you cannot blame these people; their ignorance comes from a lack of complete information.
In Nigeria today, many people use certain inappropriate and offensive words and languages when referring to members of the LGBT Community; even some members of the community commit the same offense. Well, this episode will correct the use of certain terms and attempt to answer the question, “Are you a Man or Woman?” This question that has been asked by many over and over again, sometimes due to a person’s gender expressions.
Homosexuality in Nigeria is perceived to be western induced; its omission from the African culture list has been used as a defense to say that homosexuality in Nigeria is invalid. A large number of people believe that this proves that homosexuality was never present in Nigeria, and that it was copied from the western world.
Homosexuality is a taboo they say, something destructive and demonic and unnatural. Some say it’s just a bad habit that needs to be abolished, and to do this, jailing became the ONLY OPTION to help re-orient the minds of ‘infected’ persons into becoming proper men/women.
But does the prescribed law bring about an actual desired change? Is it necessary? What about those who actively persecute suspected members of the Nigerian LGBT community? Who is the criminal? Who is the victim? Who really should be jailed?
#NoStrings tries really hard to logically answer these questions and many more, as well provide clarity on certain issues concerning the LGBT community in Nigeria.
I have observed that people sometimes ponder on the erroneous idea that one’s sexual orientation can be changed. Even some homosexuals are guilty, especially when still in the discovery phase. This phase is usually scary and unacceptable to most people who do not know how to handle the overwhelming feelings of been attracted to the same-sex. This could be confusing and can bring about a sense of insecurity. The fear of ‘What will people say’, ‘Am I normal’, ‘How do I discuss this with other people’ continues to linger. The individual finally reaches a stage of withdrawal and isolation, keeping entirely to themselves.
The fear increases especially when one starts to hear negative things and witness the manner at which homosexuals are treated by the society at large, adverse treatments that are meted out even by family and friends. The tension increases when someone gives a passing scathing remark concerning how your walk, talk, gestures, especially when one is effeminate.
Due to this, I’m sure a whole lot of us constantly wish we could change our sexual orientation (if it was possible). But truth is, WE ARE WHO WE ARE, and there’s nothing any pastor, therapist, priest, priestess, bishop, pope, exorcist, babalawo, prayer warrior can do about it.
However, the one thing that can be done is to deal with the hand we are dealt. Handle the hate constantly spewed at you appropriately. And how do you do that?
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Homosexuals are commonly tagged as ‘pleasure seekers’ and as a result, many people including homosexuals themselves, perceive homosexuality as a ‘FUN Lifestyle’. But it’s neither fun nor a lifestyle. It’s who we are. And if we don’t get a handle on the choices we are driven to make by our sexuality, there’s a whole lot of deep shit (no pun intended) we might get ourselves into.
Statistics from all around the world show that homosexuals (gay men) are more prone to contracting dangerous sexually-transmitted diseases than people of other orientations. As fact, homosexuals rank the highest number of people living and dying from HIV/AIDS. It is for these reasons that #NOSTRINGS discusses and exposes the common dangerous sexual practices of gay sex, as well as provides knowledge into methods that could help the average homosexual person stay safe and healthy. The discussion balances sexual pleasure and safety as the both are paramount to every human being, homosexuals inclusive. Continue reading