RANTINGS OF A RANDOM (Gay) NIGERIAN (Entry 20)

Today I will be talking about one issue only which has been on my mind for a while and which has formed the crux of many arguments I have had with my friends.

I grew up with many boys – nine boys in total – because daddy had a few sons and took in every stray relative who needed a place to stay. Growing up was always noisy and androgen-filled. And then, as we hit puberty, I started going out with my plenty brothers and we began testing the waters of our raging heterosexual hormones. And all the while, I kept my budding awareness that I liked boys a secret, well and truly hidden by the strength of my mortification.

I eventually lost my virginity to our house help. Her name was Ogonna. I was about fifteen, she was twenty. I had seen a few porno movies in VCR (is that still around?) so I experimented with what I’d seen with her. The first attempt was a disaster, and I came in less than two minutes. *covers face*

Eventually we started having sex regularly after everyone went to sleep. And then, Mommy found out (Actually I was not the only one giving it to her; in a house of ten boys… Go figure), and she was sent home.

I went on to lose my second virginity (is that even a phrase?) to a guy when I was nineteen. The experience was electrical, like an explosion in my brain. And I haven’t looked back since.

Their Eyes Are Watching Them

I’ve often wondered why affection between two females does not draw the same wrath that that between two males does. It is not a new thing to see two girls walking down the street, holding hands together, or even to hear them referring to themselves with endearments, circumstances that do not raise any eyebrows.

But when males engage in such intimate acts, people will start talking.

There’s this girl in my faculty who always dresses as masculine as she can pull off – the huge boots, short and colour-sprayed hairstyle, baggy jeans and oversized polo, and instead to causing an outrage with her unconventional dressing, she got catapulted into popularity. Guys are either trying to befriend her or nail her.

DEAR KD: I Know The Man She Wants To Marry

I need advice on this.

So there’s this lady, a nurse here in Bayelsa who I call my ‘mummy’, because she’s like a mother to me. She is quite advanced in age, but unmarried. And she knows about my sexual orientation, yes. She once saw lots of gay porn on my phone the day she was looking at my pic. So I had to come out to her, and she responded with the reassurance that it doesn’t change our relationship. She promised that she was cool with who I am. And she subsequently showed some curiosity on the gay issue, frequently asking for lectures on Gay Sex 101. Our talks on the subject were always fun.

Anyway, there’s this suitor that she’s been telling me about recently. And then, last week Thursday, she told me the guy would be coming over on Saturday, and would be staying a whole week. I couldn’t wait to meet him; she’d told me so much about him.

Petition calls for Caitlyn Jenner’s Olympic medals to be taken away

A petition has been started asking the Olympic Committee to remove Caitlyn Jenner’s medals.

She won a gold medal in the men’s decathlon in the 1976 Olympics, as well as gold in the same event in the 1975 Pan American Games.

The step-parent to the Kardashians, Caitlyn Jenner revealed her new name as she appeared on the latest cover of Vanity Fair.

The change.org petition states that as she competed in the men’s event, her medals should no longer be valid since she has spoken about her identity as a woman.

That Piece About Calling Her ‘Caitlyn’

Originally published on johnpavlovitz.com

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One of the greatest gifts you can give another human being is to really see them.

Not who you wish them to be, not the version of themselves that makes you the most comfortable, not the one that is the most convenient for you, but the most authentic self they can muster at a given moment.

And to live is to be in battle.

The World’s Hottest Teacher Complains He’s A Victim Of Male Objectification

When a student posted an image of heartthrob maths teacher Pietro Boselli on a social media site, it sparked an internet frenzy in the weeks that followed. The handsome Italian model with a PhD was widely celebrated for being the perfect mix of beauty and brains.

However, it seems such attention comes with a downside. Boselli is now claiming he’s unhappy with the way his looks have all but dwarfed his academic capabilities…and that some women can’t keep their hands to their selves.

The 26-year-old originally from Brescia, Italy, writing in Grazia magazine, claims he knows how Games of Thrones actor Kit Harington feels when he says he’s been ‘objectified’ by women.

Actress Alice Eve branded a bigot over rant against Bruce Jenner

There have been declarations of support from across the world for Bruce Jenner, the former Olympic champion and stepfather of reality TV star Kim Kardashian, following his announcement that he thinks of himself as a woman after beginning gender reassignment treatment.

But Star Trek actress Alice Eve has boldly gone where few public figures have gone before, by wading into transgender politics. She provoked a furore by taking umbrage with decathlon gold medalist Jenner’s declaration that ‘for all intents and purposes’ he is a woman.

‘Nope,’ she wrote on her Instagram page. ‘If you were a woman, no one would have heard of you because women can’t compete in the decathlon. You wouldn’t be a hero. You would be a frustrated young athlete who wasn’t given a chance.

NOW, A THOUGHT FOR KENNY BADMUS’ WIFE

Written by Akin Akintayo, and originally published on akinblog.nl

On the one hand, praise.

A couple of days ago, I celebrated the coming out of Kenny Badmus on both the matter of his sexuality and HIV-status with the hope that his decision will give strength and encouragement to the many who suffer under the societal strictures of conformity and despair.

However, it was impossible for the matter to just end there, because there was one key guiding principle that I had to revisit after a bit of reflection and discussion, the one of people who are hurt by those actions we take when we are faced with other difficult options we refuse to choose.

Now, Kenny Badmus said he learnt this from his father: “Die for your own truth, even if it’s unpopular, but don’t harm others with it.” Indeed, I believe there is a very strong influence of this in his decision to accept who he is, but that lesson has come long after damage has been done.

On the other hand, however…

A Straight Woman’s Point Of View…

In a bid to show my solidarity for Kenny Badmus, I updated my BBM display picture with his profile, and updated some message I can’t now remember on my pm. So, of course, I had friends who came trolling with questions and remarks and opinions. One of them was a female friend of mine; and below is a screengrab of part of what we chatted about.

This sort of amused me. I mean, really, gay men don’t deserve to have good looking fellow men to shag?

On my other, more mainstream blog, where I also updated Kenny’s coming out, another straight female said as part of her comment: ‘…I have a gay friend, finest guy I know. For some reason they now seem to be blessed with good looks…’

AH! We don suffer! So, before we woh-woh, abi? Chai! Diaris God o.

Woman who cut off hair to work as male model speaks of how she and her husband now get mistaken for a ‘gay couple’

A blonde bombshell, who cut off her hair in a bid to work as a male model, has told how she and her husband now get mistaken for a ‘gay couple.’

Elliott Sailors, 31, currently based in New York with Adam Santos-Coy, told Elle.com: ‘Sometimes people just see us as that, which doesn’t bother us, except when people are unkind.’

The six-foot-two-inch beauty added: ‘Even when people do know that I’m a woman, they think that if Adam’s with a woman like me, then he must be gay and hiding it. People have all these wild opinions.’

But instead of trying to assert ‘traditional’ gender roles, the couple chooses to play up the same-sex look. Indeed, at the recent premiere of Michael Polish’s film Big Sur, Sailors appeared in a men’s style black suit and white shirt alongside Santos-Coy, who was also suited. (Picture above right)