That Piece About Trans Being the Flavor of the Moment

Laverne-Cox-and-Caitlyn-Jenner-MainOriginally published on out.com

Trans people are hot right now. They’re fabulous, they’re chic, and they’re the toast of the media. Isn’t that great? What could be more swellegant than that?

Well, kindly excuse me for a second while I choke on my metaphorical martini olive. I actually get a little bit nervous when large groups of oppressed people are suddenly swept up by the mainstream and declared OK. First of all, they were always OK. I’ve written about trans people since I started my journalism career in the 1970s, but now that they’ve been deemed trendy, we’re supposed to suddenly sit up and notice them? Furthermore, the mania to brand them as really cool accessories du jour is rather disturbing since a lot of the people jumping on the trans bandwagon would never have gone near anyone openly LGBT for years, not until they signified some kind of cachet in the commercial marketplace. Furthermore, they’re mostly picking up on flashy, famous trans people, not environmentally challenged trans teens, trans people in professions other than show biz, and those who don’t seek the spotlight at all. Continue reading

The Fight For UK Asylum For Lesbian Fleeing Sharia Wrath In Nigeria

2r22f48A judge has adjourned court following an intense hearing of the highly publicized case of Aderonke Apata, a Nigerian lesbian fighting for asylum in the UK.

The 47-year-old gay rights advocate and award-winner came to Britain from Nigeria in 2004, seeking asylum on religious grounds.

Coming from a Christian family, she married a Muslim man in what she says was a sham arrangement to cover up her long-term relationship with a woman.

Apata claims her husband’s family turned against her when they suspected she was gay, and took her to a sharia court, where she was sentenced to death for adultery. Her brother and three-year-old son, she says, were killed by mobs.

She ran away, lived on the streets in Manchester, and now her case has come to the Royal Courts of Justice for a final decision. Will she be given asylum, or will she be sent back to Nigeria where she could face certain death? Continue reading

Question Of The Day III

Please, the ladies and bisexuals in the house, I need your attention!

Do I have it? Okay.

So, on my mainstream blog, against the update of Kenny Badmus’ coming out, the comments section was really tense, considering that straight people read the blog too. There was a face-off between someone in our team and someone else in that other team. (Our team player is a KDian, he knows himself, lol). Other opinions were tossed into the mix, and one of them was from a female. See screengrab below.Screenshot - 2_1_2015 , 9_35_17 PM

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‘I Have A Male Soul.’ – says Singer Charice

Charice-PempengcoFormer Glee star and pop singer, Charice has revealed she’s slowly becoming a man – but she won’t be changing her body.

The Filipino star taped a new interview with Oprah Winfrey, who discovered the singer/actress almost a decade ago, and she told the TV titan she’s changing her look to embrace her “male soul”.

Charice, who announced she was gay last year (Jun13), insists she’ll never follow Cher’s son Chaz Bono, who underwent gender reassignment to become a man – but she wants to look like one. She explains, “I’m not exactly transitioning to a male, but basically my soul is, like, male. But I’m not going to go through that stage where I’m going to change everything – not change my body.

“I’ll cut my hair and wear boy clothes and everything, but that’s all.”

Charice also recalled the moment when she realised she was gay, adding, “‘I knew when I was five. I was in grade school and I saw this girl and I felt different. I didn’t know what it was but I just knew that time, like, it felt special. And when I was 10, I was like, ‘Oh, that’s it, I’m gay’. I found the word.”

The interview airs in America today (19Oct14).

‘Were you thinking about transitioning to become a male?’ Oprah quizzes Singer Charice on her dramatically different appearance

1413412633768_wps_35_OWN_TV_Charice_s_SurprisiShe came out as a lesbian in 2013.

And now Charice Pampengco is sparking rumours that she is undergoing gender reassignment surgery due to her altered appearance.

The 22-year-old looks set to address the issue on Sunday’s episode of Oprah Winfrey’s Where Are They Now, during which the talk show host asks the singer point blank about a possible sex change. In a teaser clip, the 60-year-old presenter asks, ‘Were you thinking about transitioning to become a male?’

But fans will have to watch Sunday’s show to find out Charice’s answer.

The star, known simply as Charice, looks a far cry from her younger, long-haired self, and sported a blonde buzz-cut and collared black shirt for her appearance on the show.

Charice found fame through YouTube, after videos of her singing garnered more than 15 million views. She appeared on the Oprah Winfrey Show in 2010 with the release of her first studio album, Charice, and was heralded by Oprah as ‘the most talented girl in the world.’ Continue reading

The Mother and Daughter Who Are Reportedly Lesbian Partners

mother-daughter-lesbiansI don’t know how to feel about this report, but well, here it is.

African-American Mary Carter is Vertasha Carter’s biological mother, but the relationship does not end there. They are also lesbian lovers.

Mary Carter says of their relationship: “Vertasha and I knew we were attracted to each other when she was sixteen. But we decided to wait to have sex until she was eighteen, legally of age. We are now going public with our relationship to help others who might be in gay mother/daughter relationship feel confident and okay about coming out. We want the world to know we love each other as mother and daughter and romantically.”

Laws forbid incest mostly because of inbreeding and the birth defects that can often come as a consequence.

“We’re women, so Vertasha and I obviously can’t make children,” Mary Carter continues. “It’d be one thing if her daddy (he’s out of the picture) got her pregnant and a baby was born with deformities, but we’re not hurting anyone. We’re a new minority and just want acceptance.”

Vertasha is apparently happy with the relationship as well. She says, “My mom is still my mom. She does normal mom stuff: buys me clothes, pays for food, tells me to make our bed. We just happen to enjoy sex with each other too.”

‘I’m gay. God loves me just the way I am.’ – Christian rock-star Vicky Beeching

vickybeeching2-620x421Written by Patrick Strudwick, originally published in independent.co.uk

There is no quicker, more effective way to destroy someone than to isolate them. Guards at Guantanamo Bay know this. Psychiatrists know this. Vicky Beeching, 35, British star of the American Christian rock scene, one of the most successful artists in US mega-churches and now one of the most sought-after religious commentators in Britain, knows this too.

There is also no better way to destroy a group of people than to ensure they do the job for you. And so, as Beeching’s story pours out on a hot afternoon – a story of psychological torture, life-threatening illness and unimaginable loneliness, imposed all around from a supposedly godly environment – one question fills the air: if shrinks, brutes and fascists know how best to devastate a person, does the Church of England? Or do they know not what they do? Continue reading

Is She Out? Queen Latifah Photographed Sharing Romantic Vacation With Rumored Girlfriend

Capture671Queen Latifah has always been pretty guarded when it comes to discussing her sexuality. Just last summer, she told the Hollywood Reporter that it’s no one’s business but her own what her sexual preference is.

“I don’t feel the need to discuss my private life on this show or any other show,” said the actress and talk show host. “There’s the part of my life that the public and I share together. And there’s the part that’s mine to keep for myself. And that’s mine. For me.”

Either she no longer cares whether or not the public knows her sexual preference or she didn’t expect to be tracked down by the paparazzi during a romantic vacation that she recently took to Italy with her rumored girlfriend. The love birds were spotted yesterday taking a romantic walk along the beach and also relaxing poolside at Hotel Cala di Volpe, where they exchanged kisses and other affectionate gestures.

She Is A Lesbian Who Married A Man

man-and-woman-holding-hands-in-sunsetBy EJ Levy, previously published in salon.com

I was in a bar in Chicago when I told a close friend of 20 years that, despite being a lesbian, I was marrying a man. My friend and I hadn’t seen each other in a while, but we fell back quickly into our old intimacy — those long, rambling conversations we used to have in coffee shops all over Minneapolis. When the subject shifted to an activist group she was part of, I said I’d be glad to help, if they needed a lesbian on their board. She laughed, dismissively. “You can’t call yourself that anymore.”

Of all the weird reactions I’d gotten to my engagement, that one pissed me off most.

I had not been surprised when my fiancé’s friends — Washington insiders with the respect for convention that city inspires — expressed shock when they discovered I was a dyke. We came from different worlds; with my long brunette hair and short skirts, I hadn’t read as queer to them. But no one had presumed to re-label me, to retrofit me to their categories — at least, not to my face.

But here was my fabulous Portland pal trying to claim me for the Bi-Het team (which sounded like a synagogue rather than a sexual identity, and certainly not my own). She wasn’t the only one: An ex-girlfriend and a sophisticated poet cousin said the same thing, as if my lesbian license had been revoked.

So let me be clear, since I can’t be the only one: I am a lesbian marrying a man. Continue reading