She Asked: FREEDOM OR A SLIPPERY SLOPE TO MORE?

FOREWORD: My attention was brought to a recent Facebook post updated by a female, Eketi Ette. I read it, and I decided to share. Read and of course, let us know what you think.

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A few days ago, cyberspace was in a furore over a certain Bruce that has become a Caitlyn. Some little children somewhere now have two grandmothers, instead of a Grandpa and a Grandma. I’ve got one word for those children: confusion.

Messages of congratulations poured in from every quarter; many people hailed this man for his supposed act of bravery; for “refusing to hide any longer” and others for “finally being his true self.” A lot of people said, “If it makes him happy, then I’m glad.” I wonder why many didn’t extend the same courtesy to Michael Jackson and Dencia.

‘It’s time for gay people to fight for women’s rights.’ – Patricia Arquette

After her Oscar win, Patricia Arquette urged gay people to fight for women’s rights as a means to return the favour for fighting for LGBT rights.

The Oscars was not just a night for the big winners to collect the coveted awards, many used their win to give impassioned speeches about political issues. Patricia Arquette was one of the stars who chose to speak about women’s rights.

Arquette, who won the Best Supporting Actress award for her role in Boyhood, called on gay people and people from ethnic minorities to join the fight for women’s rights. She claimed that women had fought for their rights and it was time that they helped fight for women.

During her acceptance speech, which was met with an excited reaction from Meryl Streep, Arquette called on support for her cause, claiming women had “fought for everybody else’s equal rights.”

URGENT! Another Reason To Be Careful

A good friend of mine and fellow KDian was kind enough to share the information below that awoke a mix of emotions inside me. Apparently, our police force has decided to channel its investigative skills into apprehending – no, not armed robbers, kidnappers and terrorists, nuh-uh! – GAY PEOPLE. Yes, we’re the criminals who should urgently be gotten off the streets. And day after day, they come up with ingenious new ways to nab members of the Nigerian gay community.

Check out the chats below.

MY RIGHTS, HIS RIGHTS

I’ve read a lot of Kito stories on this blog to know that some human beings are scum. The last Kito story particularly gave me chills, and I contacted a friend to discuss it, because I couldn’t fathom how that was possible. Your own ‘Kind’ actually being the architect of your misfortune? It seemed hard to accept. My friend said a lot of things, including the one that stuck: “Human beings are scum.”

I like to think he is wrong but deep down I know he is right. We are scum, because we choose to be. We are scum because we fail to treat each other right. We are scum because we don’t see where our right ends and the other begins. The comments section of that last Kito story however gave me hope; hope that there is a way, maybe just a little keyhole of a way, but a way nonetheless.

KNOW YOUR RIGHTS! It’s simple and hard at the same time. First of all, here are your BASIC HUMAN RIGHTS as stipulated by the United Nations:

Nigerian Human Rights Activist brings Lawsuit after Arrest and Unlawful Detention

Originally published on oblogdeeoblogda.me

Ifeanyi Orazulike, Nigerian activist in the field of human rights and sexual health, who was detained without cause or charge by Nigerian police, is requesting an order of enforcement against two Nigerian Government agencies for violating his constitutional rights. The detention of the activist came on the heels of a Nigerian Court throwing out a case seeking to squash the new Nigerian Anti-Homosexuality law, the Same Sex Marriage (Prohibition) Act.  The attorney who brought that case is now representing the Orazulike, who was arrested at 11.00 pm on the night of October 22nd at his office in Abuja, while celebrating his birthday together with 10 friends, well wishers and staff members.

Ifeanyi tells the story of the raid and his detention in an Affidavit attached to a motion filed in the Nigerian Federal High Court, Abuja Judicial Division, alleging he was arrested, detained and dehumanized, without charge. The motion was brought on October 24 by attorney Mike Enahoro Ebah, of Enahoro and Associates, based in Abuja, representing Ifeanyi, against The Inspector General of Police (1st Respondent)  and Abuja Environmental Protection Board (2nd Respondent.)

In his affidavit Ifeanyi asserts:

‘There Should Never Be Another Ibrahim.’ – Bisi Alimi’s TEDx Talk in Berlin

This talk was given at a local TEDx event, produced independently of the TED Conferences. Bisi Alimi, the first open gay rights activist from Nigeria, tells the story of his friend, and makes an impassioned plea for the LGBTI community. Check on it.

What George Clooney Said…

And he’s getting to witness degrees of that in his lifetime. Me, I’m not so sure I will see that day happen in Nigeria. I’d be glad for Fate to disprove me of my pessimism though.

Let’s Discuss…About Sexual Deviations

What you’ll read below is something a Kitodiariesian sent to me, an issue that warranted a discussion on this forum. His pseudonym is Ace. Read what he has to say and let us know your thoughts.

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I recently happened upon a forum that discussed sexual deviance, and on it, an argument raged.

‘If gay people are given rights, then bestials and pedophiles should be given the same, because they also have rights to sexual expression.’

I was shocked by this premise and the number of people that agreed.

Then I did a little research.

LOVE AND SEX IN THE CITY (Episode 12)

FOREWORD: The latter part of this episode of Love And Sex In The City was informed by an actual occurrence involving two friends of mine, whose rights as a citizen of Nigeria were threatened. Oftentimes, our rights are trampled on and abused by the very same public servants whose job it is to preserve them. And in that rare case when an individual who knows his rights stands up for it – and wins – it begs for stupendous admiration and an ovation. I have applauded that friend. This episode is to let him know of my admiration for his effort as well. Check on it.

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“Can you just imagine!” Ekene burst out furiously. “Eh? When will we TBs learn to love ourselves in this country, learn not to backstab and cut down and take advantage of our fellow guys in this Nigeria, eh?”

“Honestly, it’s disturbing,” Adebola said. “The lengths some of us go to malign the rest of us is shocking.”

“Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned is old school,” quipped Biola. “Both hell and a woman scorned have nothing on a vindictive gay guy.”

My friends were still reacting to my news of what transpired at my workplace yesterday. It was Saturday, and Biola, Adebola, Eddie and I were back at Biola’s new place. Ekene and Jonathan were here too; Paschal couldn’t make it because he went on a booty call in Ikoyi (somewhere in Lagos State, a middle-aged, well-to-do queen was getting properly fucked). And Yinka was still away on a job.

“We should teach this Jim guy a lesson,” Eddie said. “Dee, do you have his photo. Give it to me, with his number and Facebook and Twitter accounts. I’ll just update his entire shameless profile on my blog, and shame him for all my readers.”

“Eddie!” the rest of us gasped laughingly.

Say Hello To The Bravest Man In Nigeria

Hello, guys, so the response to the advent of this blog has been very mixed. Some folks expressing enthusiasm, and others being wary. Some even have been downright doubtful as to the necessity of this venture. And these reactions have been taken into consideration, the pleasant ones appreciated and the negative ones understandable. After all, na Naija we dey. 14 years is very real (lol). But hopefully, we have providence on our side, and in the same way we pray for life and shelter and provisions and a good man and good sex (:) ), let us pray for the success of this venture.

So, in other news, unless you were kidnapped by Boko Haram’s ancestors and stuck under a rock in faraway Sokoto for many, many years, then, you just must have heard about gay rights activist, Bisi Alimi, the first man to publicly declare his sexuality on Nigerian National Television back in 2004. When I think of that feat, especially in a country such as ours where the hostility toward homosexuals has always been there pre-anti-gay law, I get goose bumps.

Recently, Alimi was in Washington, D.C., where, as an Aspen New Voices Fellow, he had been asked to talk to the World Bank about how they should be handling Nigeria. He also spoke to the Washington Post about his own remarkable circumstances, the realities of LGBT rights in Nigeria, and what, if anything, the international community should do to help.

Read excerpts of the interview below: