‘Are You Top Or Bottom?’ And Other Two-Way Stereotypes People Play

lebronvcurryThe world sees in binary. Everything is in twos. Good and evil. Rich and poor. Strong and weak. Gay and straight. Black and white. Male and female. Even the animals in the ark came in twos.

Binary stereotypes in mainstream public perceptions of gender can often be felt in popular culture, through movies, music and the media as well as in sports.

For instance, it is largely assumed that preference for hip hop and rap music is indicative of tough guys while jazz and R&B are somewhat emasculating and therefore associated with the fairer sex. The fairer sex itself is a condescending term, but it denotes the fact that whenever binary logic is applied, the first option must necessarily be superior or better, while the second is by default inferior or wrong.

Machismo and generalizations of gender apply commonly in sports, as seen in last week’s NBA finals. Continue reading

No Strings With Mike Daemon (Episode 14)

AdeIn this episode, NOSTRINGS catches up with Seyi Adebanjo, a queer, gender non-conforming Nigerian, in the discussion of gender related issues. ‘They’ speak on the reasons why ‘they’ do not exactly identify as either male or female in its entirety, the challenges that comes with changing one’s identity, sometimes having to live a double life, what it means to be gay, dealing with the hate, and how people constantly confuses ‘them’ for something else or try really hard to gender ‘them’ up. We are taken humorously along on their journey of transition.

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JAMES’ JOURNAL (Entry 38)

Blog_James' Journal

June 6

It’s quite unfortunate that I have to chill till Sunday to say this since Caitlyn Jenner would be a bit of stale news. I’m probably going to sound like a grand douche bag for the next few paragraphs or so, but I feel like I’m correct and nobody has brought up any tangible reason to make me shift my ground.

It started with a tweet I found hilarious and decided to update on my BBM. It went like so: ‘So Caitlyn can transition into a woman, but person no fit bleach…’ or something like that.

I chuckled. Very funny. Then I thought about it. It could be looked at in two ways. This tweet was just an ignorant something the tweep updated to make his followers giggle, or it could actually be pointing out a bit of double standard. Continue reading

Oxford English Dictionary Could Recognise Gender Neutral Title ‘Mx’

127430-050-4FA643E7The Oxford English Dictionary is considering adding the gender-neutral title ‘Mx’ for the first time.

The title Mx is a gender-neutral alternative to Mr and Ms, which has grown in use and seen an increasing pick-up, with a number of councils and banks now offering it. It is one of a number of gender neutral honorifics, such as Dr. and Rev. – but is intended for general use instead of specific to a profession.

The upswing in usage for the honorific might see it included in the next edition of the Oxford English Dictionary.

The dictionary’s assistant editor Jonathan Dent told the Sunday Times: “This is an example of how the English language adapts to people’s needs, with people using language in ways that suit them rather than letting language dictate identity to them.” Continue reading

Let’s Discuss…About Genders And Gay Sex Roles

Blog_Let's DiscussTops are men. Bottoms are women.

Tops are masculine. Bottoms are effeminate.

Tops are dominant. Bottoms are submissive.

Tops are strong and steady as a rock. Bottoms are soft and dramatic.

Tops are the bigger, huskier ones in a relationship. Bottoms are those smaller ones by their sides.

Gender stereotypes have crossed the train tracks into the LGBT lane, and they weren’t driven here by the straight people even. No. It is fellow gay men that perpetuate these ludicrous myths.

When an accepting and curious straight person asks a gay person the question, “So who’s the man and who’s the woman in your relationship?”, it is offensive yet mildly amusing. However, when it’s a fellow gay, it’s downright blasphemous and must be set straight (pun intended). There are two penises involved in man-on-man action, so what’s the deal with people thrusting vaginas into the mix? Continue reading

The Unfortunate Case Of Leelah Alcorn

HT_ht_joshua_leelah_alcorn1_ml_141231_16x9_992Seventeen years ago in Kings Mills, Ohio, a child was born into the Family of Mr. and Mrs. Alcorn. They named him Joshua. As a young child, Joshua was unusual; he was effeminate and loved to play in girl’s clothing. He loved dolls, long hair and other things that females are normally inclined to. At the age of four, he started feeling like a girl trapped in a boy’s body.

The family attended the Northeast Church of Christ in Cincinnati and Joshua was raised in a strict Christian home and was constantly fed with what most of our parents filled or do still fill us with – several doses of religious doctrines and ample bible texts.

At the age of fourteen, after several years of emotional torture living in the closet, he decided enough was enough, and decided to come out to his parents. He did and got a stern negative reaction from them. He also made it known to them that he wanted to be referred to as ‘she’ and Leelah, not Joshua. Continue reading

Woman who cut off hair to work as male model speaks of how she and her husband now get mistaken for a ‘gay couple’

PicturesA blonde bombshell, who cut off her hair in a bid to work as a male model, has told how she and her husband now get mistaken for a ‘gay couple.’

Elliott Sailors, 31, currently based in New York with Adam Santos-Coy, told Elle.com: ‘Sometimes people just see us as that, which doesn’t bother us, except when people are unkind.’

The six-foot-two-inch beauty added: ‘Even when people do know that I’m a woman, they think that if Adam’s with a woman like me, then he must be gay and hiding it. People have all these wild opinions.’

But instead of trying to assert ‘traditional’ gender roles, the couple chooses to play up the same-sex look. Indeed, at the recent premiere of Michael Polish’s film Big Sur, Sailors appeared in a men’s style black suit and white shirt alongside Santos-Coy, who was also suited. (Picture above right) Continue reading

Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt Support their daughter’s Wish To Be Called “John”

shiloh-600x420Angelina Jolie’s entire family recently stepped out on the red carpet to support the actress’s new movie, Unbroken. The superstar couple’s oldest biological child – daughter named Shiloh – joined brothers Maddox and Pax wearing sharp suits and short haircuts.

Pitt and Jolie have been fairly open over the years about Shiloh’s interest in all things considered masculine. In an interview with Oprah in 2008, Brad Pitt discussed how Shiloh wanted to be called John.

The eight-year-old’s family fully supports her decision to self-identify — from an affinity for suits and ties to shorter hair to the name change. Continue reading