IDENTITY THEFT

identity-theft3I was going through some grindr profiles as I usually do when I get bored, when a profile caught my attention. The profile had the picture of someone I knew, not personally though. The guy is someone whose Facebook profile I’ve come across and gone through a number of times, even though I’ve never sent him a friend request. This isn’t because I mind being his friend. It’s because with a look at his Facebook profile, one can immediately tell that he is gay. This is due to the sort of pictures he uploads. Now, I have nothing against people who upload raunchy pictures on the social network; my misgivings about this guy however stemmed from the fact that he is young and his pictures are too revealing, some of them of the fact that he’d just had sex, most of them of him with other males in not-so-subtly compromising positions.

Anyway, because of this, I just could not add him on Facebook because I know I have some people, friends and family, who snoop on my Facebook profile, as though waiting for me to do or say something. I remember some years ago, when I had numerous gay friends on Facebook, there was this male friend of my younger sister, who I’d gotten close to because I had a thing for him. And one day, he asked me if I was gay, because (according to him) I had too many gay friends on Facebook. I laughed off his supposition. He however persisted later in telling me to be careful. So, I had to whittle my (gay) friend list to a negligible number of those who do not post ‘funny’ pictures. Continue reading

Guys Whisper The Highs And (Mostly) Lows Of Online Dating

Gay dating websites can be an awesome way to connect, but can also be a real drag. Messages go unanswered, hours seem wasted scrolling through endless profiles and something that’s supposed to hook you up leaves you feeling as isolated as ever.

Below is a Whisper round-up of revelations made by men who are either disillusioned or ambivalent toward online dating.w1 Continue reading

Internet Lover

FINALLY! Kito Diaries’ first post penned by a sister! Her name is Unoma – that’s right, her real name in all her daring glory. Shame on you cowering brothers, hiding behind aliases. lol 🙂

Anyway, the story below is fiction. Read and enjoy.

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lesbiansexTiti had not been too lucky with relationships. Her first lover lasted six months with her, and cheated on her a number of times. The second was abusive. And the third was quite the lunatic; she barely took her bipolar medication. Titi decided to remain celibate until she met the right person. However, after a year she became lonely and opted to spend part of her night-time in internet chat rooms.

She was a student of Savannah College of Art and Design in Georgia, and worked as a waitress in between her class hours, but Sundays were her best chat days. Most of the chat rooms were usually crowded, and it was difficult to catch anyone’s attention. Unless one made prior arrangements to meet there, it was near impossible to chat. However, Titi formed the habit of clicking on people’s names under the list of members in the room to check their pictures and then decide who was pretty enough to chat with and possibly establish a relationship with. Continue reading

SAFE ONLINE DATING

Screen-Shot-2013-11-14-at-10.22.18Nigeria is very homophobic which drives same sex relationships underground. Then came the Internet (I often wonder how men hooked up in the 80s, but that’s matter for another day).

Anyway we depend on the Internet with mobile apps to meet with someone these days. However there is the possibility too that these apps and sites have been infiltrated by gay bashers. Knowing the society we live in, avoidance is key.

These are my tips for secure Internet dating or “market hustling” as some of my friends call it (LOL). Continue reading