Hopes And Fears And Everything In Between

hopes and fearsChurch was fun all the way down to the sermon.

And just when the pastor was going to round up the preaching for the week, he brought up the one subject that makes me swallow hard in a gathering like that –

Homosexuality.

Of course, I swallowed.

Then he began his narration of what he’d been seeing in the papers – about how the same-sex bill could be revisited in Nigeria as homosexuality had become a global topic; about how the homosexuals are trying to take root in God’s church and lead people astray. A couple of prayers against us, present but unknown, were made. I was so stunned by the condemnatory nature of the prayers. And when the name of Jesus was called upon to stamp His approval on the supplication, I couldn’t say ‘Amen.’

How could I? Continue reading

MY FEARS

my fearsFOREWORD: When I read this, my first emotion was surprise. Considering the person who sent it for publication, I could not believe the depth of vulnerability he showed himself capable of revealing, the way he did with this piece. In the heels of my surprise came admiration at how frank he was with the write-up.

So, here, check on it below. And let us know if you’ve got fears of your own.

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When you meet me, you meet someone who has everything going for himself. Someone who gained admission into the university at a very young age; I’m not the first child, but I was the first to gain admission and to graduate amongst my siblings. I was even the youngest in my department; not that I was that young, but I attended a Federal University where you see papas and mamas in the same class with pikin. I came out tops in my class and have an award to show for it. I work in a very nice establishment, which I don’t see myself leaving anytime soon, even though the pay is not as much as I desire. I am the shining light in my family, the one that everyone comes to for advice. Once I am at home, the house is filled with laughter, because I have a sense of humor that is infectious. I am the friend you can run to when you have problems and you are sure of getting solutions. I am ever smiling. I am the first to get to work, and most times, the last to leave. I help my people when I’m needed and have secured the admiration of many around me. To the world, I am a perfect guy who has everything going on for him. Continue reading

JAMES’ JOURNAL (Entry 10)

Blog_KD JournalJuly 31

There’s something a couple of my exes have said that I think is total bullshit. It’s not in my nature to be jealous.

Like I said – Bullshit! Why? For heaven’s sake, even God who is True Love is a jealous God.  If a heavenly Being Who represents all that is true and good about love can be jealous, then why not imperfect humans like us?

If we are dating and you cannot be jealous, when you feel like I’m spending what you think is too much time with someone else, or feel a bit uneasy when someone is flirting with me, then I don’t think your love runs so deep.

In fact, I’d like you to show jealousy once in a while. It makes me realise you’re scared of losing me, and that’s a wonderful feeling, and I often respond by reminding you in different ways that you are my bf and stuff.

However there’s overdoing it – when it gets to borderline clingy and insecure. It’s not a good look and it will chase me away from you faster than you can say “bazinga”. Continue reading

What People Are Saying

A Kitodiariesian sent me this. He was trolling through some blogs yesterday, and stumbled on a blogpost on SDK’s blog (you know, that blog owned by the woman that’s like Linda Ikeji’s arch nemesis or something). Anyway, an anonymous user sent in an email seeking urgent advice from readers. According to the post, he is a ‘gay born-again Christian’ who wants to become straight and get married. The Kitodiariesian took screen-grabs of some of the comments.

The comments are quite amusing and insightful. And saddening as well, when you consider the double lives gay folks in Nigeria have to live. Check on them below.2014_08_02_20.14.32 Continue reading

‘My worst fears never materialised after coming out’ – CNN host Richard Quest reveals

richard questCNN host Richard Quest has acknowledged his sexuality, his fears about being openly gay in public life “never materialised” into reality.

The British-born news anchor made headlines in 2008, after he was arrested in a compromising position in a public park.

A year later, he made a comeback, having agreed to undergo six months of drug counseling in return for an “adjournment in contemplation of dismissal” of charges.

He said on Thursday, on his show Quest Means Business: “If I remember back to when I wasn’t open about my sexuality, I spent a great deal of time worried about it, about what my family would think, what would my friends, my colleagues would think, and of course, what would you think. Continue reading