That Piece About How To Be Queer In Your Church

gay-christian-500x380Written by Derrick Clifton, originally published in thoughtcatalog.com

It’s not easy being a religious queer person.

It’s even harder while part of a congregation that spews homophobia in pulpits and prevents LGBT people from attaining positions of leadership. Other churches go as far to deny sacraments like communion or other religious rites because of what they deem as “deviant” and “ungodly” lifestyles. And for those called to ministry, the roadblocks are plenty.

Though, in my own experience of reconciling my faith and sexuality, it took time for me to understand my own sense of spirituality. When I first came to terms with my identity as a gay man, there was hardly a night that I wasn’t anxious about how it may impact my faith beliefs and how I engaged church. So, in a quest to find answers, I rummaged dozens of websites and covertly found books in libraries to try and make sense of things.

Perhaps the most liberating aspect of that journey was that I found a new freedom — a freedom to explore my spirituality.

For the first time in my young life, I had to break free from being completely dependent on church sermons and ministers. And it wasn’t an easy process. In fact, it took years before I felt spiritually healthy and it’s still a work in progress. Continue reading

16 Opinions From Anti-Gay People Concerning Homosexuality

shutterstock_145027207Originally published in thoughtcatalog.com

The following are explanations sixteen people who are anti-gay gave concerning their stance on homosexuality. Read and let us know your thoughts, which opinions you agree to or not agree to.

1. Homophobic, but not anti-gay

‘People can be homophobic but not anti-gay.

‘I do not like seeing overly PDA for gay couples. Even for hetero couples it bothers me but maybe I have become more desensitized as I am more bothered by gay couples. I also am not a fan of what passes as “gay culture” these days. That being said, I have gone and voted for anything that is pro-gay rights. Just because I have a personal issue with it does not mean I cannot realize that from a political and legal perspective everyone should have the same rights.’

2. Overblown gay lifestyles

‘There’s a big difference in parading down the street in a pink tutu wearing a rainbow shirt as a man with a giant strap on and saying you want equal rights than showing people that gay relationships are normal. I think a lot of people who are outspoken about LGBT relationships fail to realize that in order to get respect they can’t tear down heterosexual relationships in the process, we all need to coexist. Attacking traditional marriage only serves to polarize and create homophobic sentiments. You cannot change people’s minds in general, they will change themselves if they grow and learn. Continue reading

Church Refuses To Bury Man After Discovering He Was Gay

10603472_698129833613781_2811121858465926305_nA church canceled the funeral of a man hours before he was to be buried after finding out he was gay.

The deceased Julion Evans, pictured above (left) with his partner, died from Amyloidosis, a disease which attacks the body organs.

His partner and legally married husband, Kendall Capers and family had planned to bury him at the New Hope Missionary Baptist Church but hours before the ceremony, the church members read Evans’ obituary and saw Capers described as the “surviving husband.”

Reportedly, they promptly informed the family that the funeral could not continue, telling Evans mother, Julie Atwood that it would be “blasphemous” for her son’s funeral to be held at the church. The mother was apparently told the news as she stood at her son’s casket.

Atwood told newsmen it was “devastating.”

The church pastor TW Jenkins told KSDK, “I try not to condemn anyone’s lifestyle, but at the same time I am a man of God and have to stand upon my principles.”

The service eventually went ahead at the funeral home.