Before The US Supreme Court Ruling, Here’s How Some Kids Reacted To Gay Marriage

anigif_enhanced-buzz-20160-1383602348-14TheFineBros showed 13 children between the ages of 5 and 13 two different viral proposal videos – one of a man proposing to a man, and another of a woman proposing to a woman – and filmed their reactions.

Some of the kids were definitely a little bit confused at first.  for the most part, they thought the videos were really cute, and didn’t quite get why these adorable proposals would upset anyone.

Here are a few excerpts from the video that I found interesting. First is the one that really cracked me up. Continue reading

JAMES’ JOURNAL (Entry 34)

Blog_James' JournalApril 10

I was listening properly to a song on David Guetta’s ‘Listen’ album. You know how you might hear a song but never really hear it. Well that day, I heard it. The song is Lift Me Up.

We’ve all got our struggles and are just trying to make it home. Some people seem to have their shit figured out, but even then, I’m sure they’ve still got demons to fight. Some people are just better at hiding their demons than others.

I’m often saying how we need to be tolerant of each other, how we need to learn to lift each other up because we are different but still fundamentally the same. It’s beginning to sound like an old tune but I don’t think things can be better with us at each other’s throats, looking for ways to put each other down and undermine our accomplishments and struggles. If you’ve got nothing good to say, then don’t say anything. And if you feel you must point something out, then maybe do it as nicely as possible. Don’t let it seem like the other person didn’t do anything tangible. Continue reading

Daughters, I Will Learn To Teach You…

Father-daughter-dad-the-trentWhen I finally decide to blow brazenly into the capacious life of mother – er, fatherhood, synthetically, with a rock and another man’s name, I do not hesitate to say that I would want to raise all girls – two girls.

I don’t want to be a mother (father) to sons.

If I’ve learned anything about being a man, it is that being a father is designed to be a contact sport, and far too many of us retire before we even see what the field looks like.

If I’ve learned anything about a woman, it is that no matter how empowering they seem, their existence was designed to never stand a chance. But it’s a lie. They are strong, in some ways stronger than men. I think women are foolish to pretend they are equal to men. They are far superior, always have been. Continue reading

Well, It Seems Zachary Quinto Has Joined The Gay Bachelors Anonymous

Actor Zachary Quinto arrives for the LosWhere’s Dennis, president of the Gay Bachelors Anonymous? Zachary Quinto would like validation of his membership card.

In a new interview with The Hollywood Reporter, actor Zachary Quinto opened up about his feelings on love and marriage. And guess what? He’s not the marrying type.

“I personally am not a huge fanatic of marriage,” the 37-year-old rabble rouser said. “Commitment and relationships are a very individual thing, and I don’t stand to tell other people what to do or who to do it with, but for me, love is defined by two people in an intimate and personal way, and superimposing an institution on that isn’t necessarily, for me, the most exciting idea.”

But don’t think that means he’s not all for marriage equality. He is. He just doesn’t want to get gay married himself. Continue reading

RANTINGS OF A RANDOM (Gay) NIGERIAN (Entry 7)

Blog_Rantings Of A Random (GAY) NigerianI had a really long day and I just wanted to get home and pass out. The demon that is Port Harcourt traffic had other plans for me, as nearly all my access routes were locked down and I was stuck. My mom still hadn’t called me, so I supposed the idiotic cousin has not said anything to her, and I was happy I didn’t have to deal with that drama at the moment. I just pulled into Ada George Road, singing along to Mikka’s Love You When I’m Drunk, when my phone beeped. And it was my uncle – yes, the father to the idiotic cousin. I increased the volume of my music, and then answered the call.

Me: Good evening, sir.

Nosy Uncle: Good evening, my dear, how are you?

Me: I am fine, thank you.

NU: Where you are? It is quite noisy.

Me: *increasing the volume again* Yes, it’s quite noisy here. Can I call you later, sir?

NU: NO! (As if he knew I had no such plan) I want to see you in Onitsha this weekend! (He was shouting over the music)

Me: I take classes during the weekends, so it may not be possible. (Big lie. All my classes are virtual; I can take them anytime)

NU: So when will you make it?

Me: I really can’t say now, but I will work out something and call you. (Right!) Continue reading

SOMETHING THAT GIVES YOU JOY

singles 21It’s been a couple of years since my parents started nagging me over the issue of marriage. I hadn’t even got a job the first time they brought it up. I suppose a bunch of factors contributed to their hastiness, one of them being that I am the first child. And another being that I lost one of my brothers to a violent death some years ago, and on some deep level, his demise serves as a constant reminder to my parents that life is too short. My brother’s death serves as a reminder to me too, that life is too short. And my parents and I interpret this reminder in ways that differ, one from the other.

It makes me want to live my life according to my own dictates.

It makes them want me to get settled fast – a wife and kids in quick succession.

And a couple of years ago, when I was unemployed and they brought up the issue of marriage, despite my aversion to their concerns, I very kindly offered them an excuse – my lack of employment. That seemed to grant me a reprieve from their agitation.

Then I got a job. And they called again. Continue reading

Let’s Discuss…about Wanting To Raise Children

Blog_Let's Discuss“Gay people want to benefit from an institution they insult.” – Comment from someone during the antigay law brouhaha. The thread was discussing letting same-sex couples raise kids.

Most people are all for the rights of sexual minorities but draw the line at same-sex couples raising kids, for various reasons ranging from fear that kids of gay parents would turn out gay to fear of sexual abuse.

Considering that same-sex couples cannot reproduce between themselves without third party assistance, or adoption, is raising children necessary for same-sex couples? What about the Venn diagram complexity of the setup – child raised by two daddies, only one of whom is the biological father while the biological mother lives somewhere downtown, perhaps with her own husband/wife… Should gay people bother with all these, or are we trying to prove a point to mainstream heteronormative society that we can raise a traditional family just like anybody else?

I know this is largely a Western civilization issue, seeing as the laws of most African countries aren’t even being tolerant to the admission of homosexuality, let alone same-sex marriage and gay parenting. But imagine you could get away, somehow, with living with your partner and wanting to raise kids, do you consider that your prerogative? And what reasons do you have for your opinion?

Cameron Diaz Is Not Looking For A Husband, Marriage Or Children

celebs 46The 42 year-old actress isn’t going to let society influence what she should do in her personal life.

In the past, Cameron Diaz has clearly stated why she doesn’t want to settle down with a husband and child, but as recent rumours claim that she is engaged to Good Charlotte‘s Benji Madden, the Hollywood actress, who covers Marie Claire‘s November 2014 issue, has asserted that tying the knot isn’t an absolute necessity. “I’m not looking for a husband or marriage, not looking for that stuff,” she told the mag. “I’m living, not thinking what I should or shouldn’t be doing with my life.”

And as for motherhood, Diaz will not let the public’s perception dictate when she should have a child. “We live in a society where everyone has kids, so they want other people to have kids. There is this culture that says celebrities are supposed to be just like us, so people think, ‘I have children, why doesn’t she?’ But I’m not going to do something because it’s expected,” she said.

“If a family happens, then it happens,” the 42 year-old blonde beauty continued. “If children come to me, then I would do that, but I’m not someone who feels like she has to do something because it’s expected.”

We live in a society where everyone has kids, so they want other people to have kids…

… I’m not someone who feels like she has to do something because it’s expected.

These points are what this post is about. First, that the fact that society thinks something is the status quo doesn’t mean you are a freak for wanting to do it differently. And secondly, the word is your life. Yours. Why then would you let it be scripted by the expectations of others when they are not the ones living it for you?