Before I Became Dennis

singles 44I was arguing with a friend of mine just the other day. We were sitting out as a group, having drinks during the weekend. One of us was expecting a guy he met online who was supposed to come and join us. This would be the first time that they’d be meeting in person. The guy later arrived and I recognized him myself; tall, light-skinned, skinny, very girly and works in a bank. We’d met before but did not click; he had not seen the movies I had seen, nor had he read the books I had read. We had nothing in common, but today he was coming to meet with my friend. He joined our table, greeted everyone and the conversation continued. His host paid him very little attention and continued chatting away with us (clearly he did not like the guy physically), and I thought this was very rude.

The guy, having reading the hand writing on the wall, made some excuses and left less than an hour after he arrived. As soon as he left, I attacked Tayo (not real name), telling him that he was a prick for disrespecting someone who left this house, and spent his time to come and see him. He asked if I expected him to go home with a flaming queen and finally give strength to his neighbors’ suspicions. I told him that he should have at least paid the guy some attention, he did not have to go home with him. He hauled abuse at me too and tempers rose till we were shouting at the top of our voices. Continue reading

India’s ‘Mr Gay World’ Representative Disappears

wpid-gay-pageant-entrant_0_0India’s entrant to the Mr Gay World competition has reportedly gone into hiding with his family.

28-year-old Thahir Mohammed Sayyed was set to represent the country at the Mr Gay World 2015 contest in Knysna, South Africa.

However, after news of his participation broke, he has disappeared along with his family – after allegedly being ostracised by their local community.

India’s Supreme Court put the country’s colonial-era law criminalising sodomy back into force in December 2013, and the country’s LGBT community have reported renewed anti-gay stigma.

According to DNA India, Mr. Sayyed’s family was not at their home in Kerala, and could not be reached. Continue reading

That Article That Asks: ‘You’re Gay… So What?’

g-stay3This write-up was written by Ifeoluwapo Odedere, and originally published on Bellanaija.com

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Perhaps one of the most trending things right now is the ‘gay’ phenomenon. Just take three steps in the online world and you’re sure to come across some article, post or news on being gay and other related stories. Even series and movies are not left out, as scripts are being rewritten to include gay characters and contexts. People in influential positions are ‘coming out of the closet’ at rates that make you wonder if being gay is the 21st century equivalent of the cigarette smoking pandemic.

The question that really begs to be asked is: ‘What’s all the hoopla about being gay?’ Why is it attracting unusual, and if I might add, unnecessary media attention?

For one, most people in the gay community have claims akin to those of about-to-be-extinct species – the cry of being persecuted in a society that just isn’t ready for their existence. And I agree, any species at the risk of extinction normally would cry out for help and protection from the predator. What beats me, however, is the turn that this plea for help has morphed into some sort of evangelism, and if you might add, a persecutory movement. Still confused? Let me help you. Continue reading

ALERT! Kito Diaries Has Been Discovered!

By a straight guy apparently. Lol. Literally. ‘Straight Man’ is his pseudonym. Apparently, even heterosexual persons need pseudonyms to comment on a gay blog. Lol. He didn’t comment on any post, instead he dropped his comment on KD’s About Page. And he must have gone through some of the posts, a testament of the brilliance of KD writers, because he had some things to say. (Relax, KD warriors. He wasn’t vitriolic. So, be nice. lol).Screenshot - 4_11_2015 , 8_11_08 AM

You hear that, KDians? Focusing your good literary skills on writing on LGBT issues is not a sign of positivity. Find a Sunday School project, something political, the weather, the change coming to Nigeria – any of these things should you write on. Forsake all writings about your sexuality. 🙂

No Strings With Mike Daemon (Episode 7)

DealingWithTheHate(Poster)I have observed that people sometimes ponder on the erroneous idea that one’s sexual orientation can be changed. Even some homosexuals are guilty, especially when still in the discovery phase. This phase is usually scary and unacceptable to most people who do not know how to handle the overwhelming feelings of been attracted to the same-sex. This could be confusing and can bring about a sense of insecurity. The fear of ‘What will people say’, ‘Am I normal’, ‘How do I discuss this with other people’ continues to linger. The individual finally reaches a stage of withdrawal and isolation, keeping entirely to themselves.

The fear increases especially when one starts to hear negative things and witness the manner at which homosexuals are treated by the society at large, adverse treatments that are meted out even by family and friends. The tension increases when someone gives a passing scathing remark concerning how your walk, talk, gestures, especially when one is effeminate.

Due to this, I’m sure a whole lot of us constantly wish we could change our sexual orientation (if it was possible). But truth is, WE ARE WHO WE ARE, and there’s nothing any pastor, therapist, priest, priestess, bishop, pope, exorcist, babalawo, prayer warrior can do about it.

However, the one thing that can be done is to deal with the hand we are dealt. Handle the hate constantly spewed at you appropriately. And how do you do that?

Well, CLICK HERE to have a listen.

President Mugabe Probably Isn’t Too Happy About This Photo

2759B0CF00000578-0-image-a-1_1428434003565A photo has been taken of Zimbabwe’s President Robert Mugabe – in which he appears to be wearing a wig and earrings.

The snap of the anti-gay leader – taken by a photographer outside South Africa’s Union Building this morning – is angled so that the leader is stood directly in front of a woman whose hair appears above him.

A perspective trick makes it appear that the hair and earrings are attached to his head, as opposed to behind him.

It’s not the first photo of the leader to circulate online in recent months – a snap of the 91-year-old falling over was spread in February, despite the leader’s best efforts to force photographers to delete the footage. Continue reading

That Article About The Outrage For The Gays Killed by ISIS

Michael-Lucas-by-Christopher-Logan4This piece, titled ‘Where Is The Outrage For Gays Killed By ISIS?’ and originally published on out.com, was written by Michael Lucas, the creator of Lucas Entertainment, one of the largest studios producing all-male erotica.

He asks: where are the celebrities, LGBT leaders, and progressive politicians who decried Dolce & Gabbana’s slights, yet remain silent over ISIS murders of gay men in the name of Islam?

Read below.

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The backlash against Dolce and Gabbana last week was immediate, brutal, and covered by news outlets from The New York Times to The Advocate to E! Online.

The gay fashion icons had made some decidedly unfashionable remarks about same sex marriage and gay parenting, including “The only family is the traditional one,” along with a reference to “synthetic” children. Continue reading

JAMES’ JOURNAL (Entry 32)

Blog_KD JournalMarch 21

Ella Henderson – Yours

I’m not a fan of putting a song on repeat. I’d rather hear something else first before going back to that song. This song however has been on repeat. It’s not a sad song, but every time I listen to it, I feel all shades of sad. It’s beautiful and simple, and I just love it very much.

This is the last week I’ll be spending in the lab where I’m doing my IT. I feel sort of sucker-punched because I hadn’t been paying attention to the time. Six weeks is just too short.

I’m not anticipating going back to school. It’d be back to lectures I couldn’t care for, my few ratchet friends I love very much, and worst of all, being alone in my room. Lol. I know I said I like being alone in my room, but I dunno anymore sha.

I didn’t get on grindr almost all weekend last weekend because I was in school. When I finally logged on, I was greeted by new messages. And I saw one from a fellow KDian, and it went along the lines of:

“You look really skinny and sickly in this picture…” Continue reading