Guys Whisper The Highs And (Mostly) Lows Of Online Dating

Gay dating websites can be an awesome way to connect, but can also be a real drag. Messages go unanswered, hours seem wasted scrolling through endless profiles and something that’s supposed to hook you up leaves you feeling as isolated as ever.

Below is a Whisper round-up of revelations made by men who are either disillusioned or ambivalent toward online dating.w1 Continue reading

THREE DAYS AFTER…

add_admin‘African on African… Black on Black… Minority on minority… The oppressed oppressing the oppressed. This can’t be xenophobia. There must be another name for this.’ – Kenny Badmus.

‘Women, poor people, people of colour, people with disabilities, immigrants, gay men, lesbians, bisexuals, trans people, intersex people . . . We compete with one another. We judge one another. Sometimes we betray one another. Sometimes even within our own communities, we designate who is best suited to represent us, and who shouldn’t even be invited to the party.’ – Kerry Washington.

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It was supposed to be simple. Really.

People were supposed to read a post on an identifiable affliction and then commiserate. Share experiences in the comments section. Encourage sufferers. Offer solutions. And just generally spread goodwill. Continue reading

A MILESTONE TODAY

KD Anniversary 1Every act is a possibility. The will to dare, the will to act are possibilities for new adventure. – Lailah Gifty Akita

When the antigay bill was signed into law last year, the act stirred this country in a way it had never been in quite a long time. There were those who cheered. And there were those who grieved. The blogosphere, as was with all other forums of human contact, became alive with contentions, people and opinion split into several camps. And the mainstream blog I was operating at the time was not left out.

In the aftermath of the law’s signage, I experienced a gamut of emotions. First I was sad. Then I was afraid. Then I became angry. And I penned my anger and blogged it. I welcomed pro-gay articles from acquaintances and published those as well. And then, we took up arms and went to battle against the antigay majority in the comments section. Continue reading

The Question About Visibility And Gay Nigerians

On Whisper, I hold back nothing. There’s a certain freedom that comes with anonymity, and I relish it on the app. So when I’m happy, sad, frustrated, horny, reflective, whether it has anything to do with my existence as a gay man or not, I put it out there. And oftentimes, depending on how outrageous my update is, some Whisperers buzz me and engage me in conversations surrounding what update had caught their attention.

I recently posted something about the frustration of wild gay sex at night being the morning after, when you’d have to clean up the bedroom. And some dude buzzed me. In the course of our conversation, the following was what ensued. Continue reading

ALERT! Kito Diaries Has Been Discovered!

By a straight guy apparently. Lol. Literally. ‘Straight Man’ is his pseudonym. Apparently, even heterosexual persons need pseudonyms to comment on a gay blog. Lol. He didn’t comment on any post, instead he dropped his comment on KD’s About Page. And he must have gone through some of the posts, a testament of the brilliance of KD writers, because he had some things to say. (Relax, KD warriors. He wasn’t vitriolic. So, be nice. lol).Screenshot - 4_11_2015 , 8_11_08 AM

You hear that, KDians? Focusing your good literary skills on writing on LGBT issues is not a sign of positivity. Find a Sunday School project, something political, the weather, the change coming to Nigeria – any of these things should you write on. Forsake all writings about your sexuality. 🙂