THE CROWD (Sunday Pick-Me-Up)

PIC 6. THE CROWD AT A PROTEST RALLY AT GANI FAWEHINMI GARDENS AT OJOTA IN LAGOS  ON FRIDAY (13/1/12).

So, I went through a phase recently (I’m still trying to pull through). I was at once trying to get a particular cloth with a tricky design done for a client and in this dark, gloomy, cranky grouchy, sad place. And then, I decided to watch old episodes of Glee; you know, sing along, laugh a little and lighten my mood.

And then, there was this particular episode that had Sue talking in her corner. We all know how Sue can be annoying and mean. But she kinda made sense that day, a whole lot of sense to me. In that moment, I actually fell in love with that evil stepmother for like . . . five seconds.

She said: “…whether I’m accepting a honorary doctorate or performing a citizen’s arrest, people ask me ‘Sue, what’s your secret?’ Well, I will tell you my secret, Western Ohio. Sue Sylvester is not afraid to shake things up!” Continue reading

That Piece On What The True Story In America Is

Same-sex marriage supporters demonstrate in front of the Supreme Court on March 27, 2013 in Washington, DC. The rights of married same-sex couples will come under scrutiny at the US Supreme Court on Wednesday in the second of two landmark cases being considered by the top judicial panel. After the nine justices mulled arguments on a California law that outlawed gay marriage on Tuesday, they will take up a challenge to the legality of the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA). The 1996 law prevents couples who have tied the knot in nine states -- where same-sex marriage is legal -- from enjoying the same federal rights as heterosexual couples. AFP PHOTO/Jewel Samad        (Photo credit should read JEWEL SAMAD/AFP/Getty Images)

John Pavlovitz, Christian, pastor and humanist, has come through again in a new write-up titled ‘The True Story Of Today In America.’ Read and be inspired.

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We all have stories we like to tell ourselves; narratives we create to frame the world around us.

Those stories often help cushion the blows and soften the impact when things around us are too frightening, too disorienting, too difficult for our minds to deal with.

These stories are often largely well-crafted fiction, born out of fear and desperation, and the sense of something slipping quickly through fingers: control.

Many scared Christians were telling stories today. Continue reading

Justin M. Quinn: I Want My Dad To Finally Come Out

singles 54Originally published on advocate.com

My father’s gay. As our nation stumbles steadily towards long-overdue legal equity for same-sex couples and their families, I’m grateful to know that doesn’t necessarily make me a rarity these days. My father’s gay. I’ve known since I was 16, when a confluence of events (his repeated “solo” trips to Key West, his membership at an all-male gym, the discovery of his Playgirl stash) forced my siblings and me to reevaluate our entire family dynamic. My father’s gay. In the 20 years since, I’ve shared those exact same words with my best friends, a few girlfriends, and a therapist who is, I’m quite certain, the closest thing I’ll ever have to an attentive paternal figure. It’s too bad I have to pay him.

I don’t normally lead with this information, but I’m not dishonest about it either. If you’re curious enough to wonder out loud how my parents have stayed married for 40 years, I’d tell you the truth: No, it’s not one of those marriage-takes-many-shapes “understandings” that’s keeping them together. That would at least be a step toward openness and acceptance. My father and mother are still married because he lies about his sexuality and she chooses to believe him. It wasn’t always this clear to me. Continue reading

This Is How You School A Homophobe

Absalom is one of those people I’m just grateful to call friend. One of his qualities – his intelligence (and his crazy, lol). He recently had it out with a female friend of his on the ever-controversial issue of – what else? – homosexuality. And below is an extract from their chatversation.

It all began with her attempting to introduce Absalom to a guy for some professional assistance. It turns out that the guy is gay and she mentioned that. And so, Absalom pounced. Lol. Check on it.

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BOTTOMS UP

Blog_Hook-Up StoryEver since Ode To Lesbianism was penned by Dr. Brian Rzepczynski, I found myself deeply thinking about the possibility of two Bottoms being in a relationship. A monogamous relationship. I asked a colleague, my very few friends and an acquaintance. I got mostly vehement NOs and three YESs.

Then I proceeded to ask myself why Bottoms cringe at the thought of being intimate with or dating another Bottom even when there’s chemistry or a connection.

Some cringe because they feel or think or understand that being on the receiving end of a dick equals femininity; which I absolutely find absurd, because there are buff, muscle-toned guys who take dick.

I think it boils down to the attitude you’re stepping into the relationship with. Continue reading

Hopes And Fears And Everything In Between

hopes and fearsChurch was fun all the way down to the sermon.

And just when the pastor was going to round up the preaching for the week, he brought up the one subject that makes me swallow hard in a gathering like that –

Homosexuality.

Of course, I swallowed.

Then he began his narration of what he’d been seeing in the papers – about how the same-sex bill could be revisited in Nigeria as homosexuality had become a global topic; about how the homosexuals are trying to take root in God’s church and lead people astray. A couple of prayers against us, present but unknown, were made. I was so stunned by the condemnatory nature of the prayers. And when the name of Jesus was called upon to stamp His approval on the supplication, I couldn’t say ‘Amen.’

How could I? Continue reading

That Piece About Trans Being the Flavor of the Moment

Laverne-Cox-and-Caitlyn-Jenner-MainOriginally published on out.com

Trans people are hot right now. They’re fabulous, they’re chic, and they’re the toast of the media. Isn’t that great? What could be more swellegant than that?

Well, kindly excuse me for a second while I choke on my metaphorical martini olive. I actually get a little bit nervous when large groups of oppressed people are suddenly swept up by the mainstream and declared OK. First of all, they were always OK. I’ve written about trans people since I started my journalism career in the 1970s, but now that they’ve been deemed trendy, we’re supposed to suddenly sit up and notice them? Furthermore, the mania to brand them as really cool accessories du jour is rather disturbing since a lot of the people jumping on the trans bandwagon would never have gone near anyone openly LGBT for years, not until they signified some kind of cachet in the commercial marketplace. Furthermore, they’re mostly picking up on flashy, famous trans people, not environmentally challenged trans teens, trans people in professions other than show biz, and those who don’t seek the spotlight at all. Continue reading

‘Are You Top Or Bottom?’ And Other Two-Way Stereotypes People Play

lebronvcurryThe world sees in binary. Everything is in twos. Good and evil. Rich and poor. Strong and weak. Gay and straight. Black and white. Male and female. Even the animals in the ark came in twos.

Binary stereotypes in mainstream public perceptions of gender can often be felt in popular culture, through movies, music and the media as well as in sports.

For instance, it is largely assumed that preference for hip hop and rap music is indicative of tough guys while jazz and R&B are somewhat emasculating and therefore associated with the fairer sex. The fairer sex itself is a condescending term, but it denotes the fact that whenever binary logic is applied, the first option must necessarily be superior or better, while the second is by default inferior or wrong.

Machismo and generalizations of gender apply commonly in sports, as seen in last week’s NBA finals. Continue reading

Their Eyes Are Watching Them

Star hug

I’ve often wondered why affection between two females does not draw the same wrath that that between two males does. It is not a new thing to see two girls walking down the street, holding hands together, or even to hear them referring to themselves with endearments, circumstances that do not raise any eyebrows.

But when males engage in such intimate acts, people will start talking.

There’s this girl in my faculty who always dresses as masculine as she can pull off – the huge boots, short and colour-sprayed hairstyle, baggy jeans and oversized polo, and instead to causing an outrage with her unconventional dressing, she got catapulted into popularity. Guys are either trying to befriend her or nail her. Continue reading

No Strings With Mike Daemon (Episode 15)

eliWondering if it is possible to merge your strong Christian faith with your sexuality? Well, in this episode, Elizabeth Funke Obisanya, an LGBTIQ minister and filmmaker best known for her film Magda’s Lesbian Lover (usually referred to as MLL), talks and deals profoundly with issues concerning faith and sexuality; augmenting it with some of her own personal experiences. She also takes us briefly back into the history of Christianity, Religion and Africa (Nigeria).

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For information concerning Elizabeth’s short film, Magda’s Lesbian Lover, which will be shown at London Arts Festival on the 26 of June 2015, click HERE.

And to submit your LGBTIQ films (short documentaries or narratives) to Elizabeth’s Film festival tagged ‘TADO FILM FESTIVAL’, click HERE.