Titled ‘Bottoms Considered More Promiscuous than Tops?’, this piece was originally published on gayguys.com. It’s quite a read. Check on it below and share your thoughts.
I’ve always believed that bottoms have more fun. We’re able to tease, please and squeeze our way into sexual situations necessary for us to be a part of. After all, if there isn’t a man willing to bend over backwards, penetration is out of the question. That in itself gives us power, but have the bottoms of the world taken it to another level?
Power bottoms are everywhere. We’re hiding in the corners and dancing in the middle of the floor as soon as you enter a gay club. To an onlooker, it seems like we’re eager and hungry to please the first hot man we see. This is true most of the time, hell, I was one of them. But this is where our power lies. Because we know how wanted we are, it allows us to expand our horizons to any place we choose.
As someone who’s called himself every kind of label in the book, I speak from experience. Bottoming is not for the weak. It takes a lot of mind power to find a place where you’re truly relaxed – a mental space required to embrace the sensations. Though there are plenty of men who’ve come out of the closet a bottom, for me, it was a much slower progression. Since I’ve experienced both sides I can truly say that bottoms have much more opportunities than their counterparts, but are we using it to our advantage?
The truth is promiscuity lies within the person, not their sexual position. Classifying yourself as a “total” anything requires a pretty heavy stance reflective of your experiences. Until you’ve tried it multiple times, there should be no reason why it should be blocked completely. But for us bottoms who are a necessity in the gay sex world, is the label itself becoming a turn on?
Most of the time, bottoms don’t need to seek out sex. Guys are drawn to us like a moth to a flame. As soon as a man sees an opportunity, instinct comes into play and they begin the game. Go to the dance club and see for yourself, or better yet change the preference on your Grindr or online dating profile to “Power Bottom” and see how many more messages you receive. Trust me, when a man senses a willing bottom, his penis tends to do the picking.
With so many opportunities for a bottom to explore, promiscuity has the potential of becoming a part of our normal routine. In gay culture especially, sex is everywhere. Not just in the bedroom or in the clubs, but in our magazines, posters, TV shows and billboards. A natural reaction for the world is to assume all gay guys are promiscuous. Though for a vast majority it might reign true, there are still plenty of guys who are placed in a bubble of assumptions. If they’re bottoms, they face a whole lot more.
For whatever reason, the world sees bottoms as more sex-hungry than tops or versa tiles and it’s time to start asking ourselves why. Why is it we’re considered sluts when we’re constantly getting played by horny tops looking to get in our jocks? Perhaps it’s time to look in the mirror from both sides. Just because we’re the ones who have to bend over doesn’t mean we’re the ones seeking it, though I admit, top-teasing comes in handy sometimes.
Personally I love the power being a bottom gives me and I use it well to my advantage. Does that make me promiscuous? Maybe so, but one thing is for sure… I always get my way.