Ok, so you know that remixed bit about hell having no fury like a gay man scorned? Well, it turns out that Steven Ugochukwu is not going down without a fight. And he’s airing all the dirty laundry on instagram. Check on some of the screengrabs below. Continue reading
Homosexuality in Nigeria is perceived to be western induced; its omission from the African culture list has been used as a defense to say that homosexuality in Nigeria is invalid. A large number of people believe that this proves that homosexuality was never present in Nigeria, and that it was copied from the western world.
Homosexuality is a taboo they say, something destructive and demonic and unnatural. Some say it’s just a bad habit that needs to be abolished, and to do this, jailing became the ONLY OPTION to help re-orient the minds of ‘infected’ persons into becoming proper men/women.
But does the prescribed law bring about an actual desired change? Is it necessary? What about those who actively persecute suspected members of the Nigerian LGBT community? Who is the criminal? Who is the victim? Who really should be jailed?
#NoStrings tries really hard to logically answer these questions and many more, as well provide clarity on certain issues concerning the LGBT community in Nigeria.
This piece, which was penned by my all-time favorite blogger, John Pavlovitz and originally published on johnpavlovitz.com with the title ‘Why I’m Tired of Talking About The LGBT Community… And Why I Won’t Stop’, sums up the exact response that should be tendered before Ifeoluwapo Odedere, the writer on Bellanaija who asked the question: ‘You’re Gay, So What?’ It sums up the perfect point of reflection for those who seem to think that LGBT activism is about seeking special treatment.
I know some people are going to get carried away by the Christian factor of the write-up and get all hot under the collar about that ‘abominable’ mix of Homosexuality and Religion, and by so doing, miss the point of the piece.
Whichever is the case, here, have a read and share your thoughts below.
Some days have a way of clarifying your calling; of reminding you just why you say what you say and do what you do and are who you are.
Today was such a day. Continue reading
Jenner went public with his much-speculated transition during a candid interview with U.S. newswoman Diane Sawyer on Friday (24Apr15), and during the TV chat he admitted he has always identified more as a female.
He has since started hormone therapy again, after previously taking the estrogen medication for five years back in the 1980s, and he has reached out to Cox to learn more about what to expect from his journey as he embarks on his new life as a woman. Continue reading
This is not because I am a horny bastard or because of the fact I like when a guy is grinding on me or vice versa. It is simply because gay parties provide the perfect atmosphere to be free to do whatever. I mean, we spend three-quarters of our lives pretending to be something we are not; it is always a relief to let your hair down once in a while (literally for some people).
Still, I always wonder why there is always so much drama at gay parties. I attend a lot of parties that are thrown by heterosexual people, and we just all dance, drink and have a good time. Not a lot of time for extra drama. I fear that is not the case with my people, as drama defines us.
Let me illustrate the typical Nigerian gay party.
So I get a text from a friend: ‘Hey Tony, if you are getting this, then it means you have been shortlisted. You are invited to my EXCLUSIVE Birthday Bash at my house. Time is 8pm till dawn. Come ready to have a good time, and this invite admits only ONE person. See you there. Sule.’
As you can see, there is already drama from the invite. Continue reading
I was arguing with a friend of mine just the other day. We were sitting out as a group, having drinks during the weekend. One of us was expecting a guy he met online who was supposed to come and join us. This would be the first time that they’d be meeting in person. The guy later arrived and I recognized him myself; tall, light-skinned, skinny, very girly and works in a bank. We’d met before but did not click; he had not seen the movies I had seen, nor had he read the books I had read. We had nothing in common, but today he was coming to meet with my friend. He joined our table, greeted everyone and the conversation continued. His host paid him very little attention and continued chatting away with us (clearly he did not like the guy physically), and I thought this was very rude.
The guy, having reading the hand writing on the wall, made some excuses and left less than an hour after he arrived. As soon as he left, I attacked Tayo (not real name), telling him that he was a prick for disrespecting someone who left this house, and spent his time to come and see him. He asked if I expected him to go home with a flaming queen and finally give strength to his neighbors’ suspicions. I told him that he should have at least paid the guy some attention, he did not have to go home with him. He hauled abuse at me too and tempers rose till we were shouting at the top of our voices. Continue reading
During his exclusive sit-down interview with ABC News, Bruce shared that he is “not gay.”
“I am, as far as I know, heterosexual,” he explained. “As far as I know, I’ve never been with a guy. I’ve always been married, raising kids.”
“And you can desire a woman every bit as much?” Sawyer asked.
“Yah, yah,” he responded.
Sawyer continued, “If you are a male and you become a female, but you like women, are you a lesbian? Are you a heterosexual who…”
But before Sawyer could fill in the blank, the Olympic athlete said, “You’re going back to the sex thing and it’s apples and oranges.” Continue reading
Matthew Hodson, the Chief Executive of GMFA, writes on the continued stigmatisation of HIV-positive people, and argues that avoiding sex or a relationship with someone HIV-positive is actually a bad strategy. Originally published on Pink News, he writes:
I’ve been living with diagnosed HIV for many years. In that time, I’ve had my share of sexual and romantic rejections on the basis of my HIV status. While these don’t make up any of my happiest memories, I’ve tried to take it on the chin. I’ve always been a firm believer that individuals have a right to work out the sexual strategy that is right for them – and that included rejecting people on the basis of their HIV status. But, you know what – I’ve had a change of heart. It’s bullshit.
Firstly, as a safer sex strategy, it just doesn’t work. We’ve known for some years now that someone on treatment is very unlikely to pass on the virus. How unlikely? Well you’re more likely to be infected from sex using a condom with someone who isn’t on treatment than you are to be infected from sex without a condom with someone who is on treatment. So when someone says that they’re going to avoid John because he has HIV (and is on treatment), and then runs off with Jonah, whose status is unknown, they’re taking a far bigger sexual risk. Continue reading
He had been spying on me. He’d noticed my secrecy with that book – my diary. He’d been watching somehow. I noticed. But I always hid the book. Surely he would not go through the stress of ravaging my belongings just to see what was written beneath the hard cover, I thought.
My elder brother. Alex.
On this fateful day, Alex decided he couldn’t contain his curiosity any longer. I was downstairs washing. The perfect opportunity. We shared the same room, but he locked the door and began Operation Find Kizito’s Diary. Hian. Nosy much? Continue reading
The 26-year-old, who received his PHD in mechanical engineering from University College London, also doubles up as a model, and is represented by Models 1.
He managed to keep his part-time career a secret until one of his students discovered some snaps, and posted a photo online of him shirtless, working out at the gym, alongside one of him working on a maths equation. (Check out the picture below) Continue reading