On Whisper, I hold back nothing. There’s a certain freedom that comes with anonymity, and I relish it on the app. So when I’m happy, sad, frustrated, horny, reflective, whether it has anything to do with my existence as a gay man or not, I put it out there. And oftentimes, depending on how outrageous my update is, some Whisperers buzz me and engage me in conversations surrounding what update had caught their attention.
I recently posted something about the frustration of wild gay sex at night being the morning after, when you’d have to clean up the bedroom. And some dude buzzed me. In the course of our conversation, the following was what ensued.
This reinforces the reason why draconian positions are taken over the issue of LGBT in Nigeria. Most of these people do not know we exist. Not really. They think of gay people as an idea, a (what was it that that Bellanaija writer call it?) concept. And the fact that being who we are has been criminalized doesn’t help our case. It makes coming out a risk and the closet comfort.