The user of the parenting forum asked for help after finding her husband’s profile – complete with a picture of him posing in his underwear in their en suite bathroom.
“Today I found my DH on Grindr,” she wrote. “Without a doubt it is him. Posing in our en suite bathroom. Confronted him. Says it is not him but refuses to let me see his phone. He is refusing to talk to me. Two children. 7 and 10. I am 43. Don’t know what to do. Please some advice.”
When other mothers were unfamiliar with Grindr, she explained: “It is a gay pick up site… You can see some of his face. God, I even recognise his pants and moles on his chest. He went ashen when I showed him and then defensive and then silence.”
She continued later: “I downloaded the app. Lo and behold up he appears.
“His message was beyond crude – that he would be energetic for a nice ass and that he wants to learn new tricks. Feel sick. And why can’t he just admit it. Tried to take a photo but it didn’t work.
“His phone is always locked (no wonder) and he said he will never let me see it even though I am distressed…At the top of his pic it just read ‘hook-ups only’.”
She said: “We had sex on Saturday. We laugh. He tells me he loves me. I will have to go to GUM clinic. There have been signs over the years and he has always denied and made me feel paranoid.”
However, she eventually decided: “He’s been living with this huge burden and I have no intention of destroying him or his reputation so long as he plays fair.”
*sigh* Oh Grindr… Outing people since 1976.