Last year, in April, college basketball star Derrick Gordon came out as being gay. Not too long after that, he made a public appearance with his much older boyfriend, award-winning actor Gerald McCullouch. Some people made a big deal out of their age difference, while others said that “love is love.”
Now, age has played a huge role in most relationships, determining whether they even get to happen or being a factor that brings about the end. You get a lot of older guys, from their thirties and above, declaring that they could never date anyone in his early to mid-twenties, and some twinks can only commit to men years older than them. Some people are less picky with the age bracket, dating above and below their ages, and some others have standards inside which are etched specific age brackets.
I’ve had three relationships in my years on earth, and aside from the first, who was my age, my other two boyfriends were years younger than me, young men whose minds, more than the number of birthdays they’ve had, attracted me. At some point, some friends of mine started calling me a cougar (lol), but I’m denying that label, at least, until Madonna, Sharon Stone and I can come together for a gals’ lunch. When a friend asked me why I’ve never dated an older person, I replied that I’ve just never met any such guy willing to settle down for something serious.
Age doesn’t really matter to me; just don’t wear your age on your face. By this, I mean… well, years ago, when I was 21, I looked incredibly too young for my age. As a university student, this characteristic was frustrating, because most acquaintances I made didn’t like to take me seriously. And in my love life, it was crushing, because a 28-year-old guy I was sleeping with then absolutely refused to ‘put a ring on it’. Why? He said he didn’t date teenagers. Of course I protested that I was 21. But he wouldn’t believe me. And after I showed my birth certificate to him (yes o, I was that determined to make that dude mine), he still maintained he couldn’t date me because I looked too young. And that’s what I mean by wearing your age on your face. And the same applies to older men. I don’t have any daddy issues, so I don’t want to be seen canoodling with a guy one would think is my father’s age-mate, even if he’s that age.
But that’s just me. What about you guys? Is age really nothing but a number? And I’m not talking about sex here; of course, anyone can sleep with anyone, no matter the age. I’m talking about intimacies that are more long-term. When you’re considering someone you want to sleep with more than just once, how much influence does age have on your consideration?