Lee Daniels has never shied away from his sexuality since stepping into the mainstream, following the success of such films as Precious, The Butler, and now his Fox show, Empire. But for the first time ever, the 55-year-old critically-acclaimed director is putting it all out there when it comes to his five-year relationship with 33-year-old boyfriend Jahil Fisher and the joys of their union (the sex) as well as the insecurities (the age difference) and what makes their partnership more special than ones he had in the past. Both men were profiled in Out Magazine earlier this month and this is what Daniels had to say about the man by his side and how they make their relationship work.
On what attracted him to Fisher:
“I heard his voice before I saw him, and that’s what attracted me first — the laughter. Then I was blown away by his sense of humor. He’s pure and in the moment, and he doesn’t have a poker face. When he’s happy, it’s like happiness on steroids, and his physical features change if he’s upset. I hide my stuff well — I’ve learned to. But he doesn’t. And he makes me laugh. It’s a completely different mind-set: He introduced me to The Real Housewives of Atlanta and he’s best friends with the Kardashians’ hairstylist. He’s very hip, and he brings all of that into my antiquated way of thinking.”
“It’s tricky. I’m 55 and he’s 33, so there’s a huge age difference between us, and I’m nervous about that. Thinking of the future, I get very Demi Moore–ish about it all. But if I’m living in the now, I know that each of my relationships has given me something important. My first gave me kids. My second gave me stability. This one — he makes me feel more responsible and accountable.”
Their sex life:
“The sex is continually off the chain. I remember first being attracted to his legs, and it’s nice to be in a relationship where, five years in, the sex is still there. That’s unique for me, because I get bored quickly.”
How fame affects their relationship:
“I feel very protective of him. He was bullied horrifically as a kid, and he’s still bullied on the streets. And it’s hard for him when we’re in public. I’ve seen people push him out of the way to have a conversation with me. It’s the nature of the beast, but it’s disturbing, and I’ve freaked out. And while he has his own identity, I know he gets lonely during my absences, which can be weeks on end sometimes. That’s why I’ve decided that whatever film I’m doing now has to be shot in New York City — so I can be close to him.”
“That’s why I’ve decided that whatever film I’m doing now has to be shot in New York City — so I can be close to him.”
Sacrifice in a real working relationship.
#stiffling
Thanx Obatala
Suffocating…a little space goes a long way.
Hmmm.
****stops eyes from rolling****
Awwwww, this is so sweet.
The gap is too much sha.
Hmmmmmm.
And why was DM rolling eyes? Did I miss something?
Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww!
*wailing* Who will love me like this naa?!
I think I love the part of being attracted abi fell in love with his boo’s voice b4 actually seeing him first. Love beyond physical appearance is d best!
By the way Pinky, I didn’t miss u cha- cha! Got a brand new obsession am stuck on! If ya like, go away for 1 month! I choptas not! Hehehehe!
Nd biko, who said the gap is too much?
Ah! Daddies r the best oh! Treats u like a baby nd pamper u silly *nostalgic*.
U r missing big time.
*Rushes back to my delicious obsession*
♥ daddies ♥
He does NOT look 55 😀
Kryxx?
Hmm!
This new obsession, n human being abi na something?
Anyway, bathrobes just got sexier.
Mask Man, o mu ka i choro icheputa okpa ezii? I refuse to b kobalized! ***Flees***
This is soo cute! Older men, in most cases make the best boyfriends.
When they know their age, Chizzie dear. When they know their age. *side eye at no one in particular*
Pinky!!!
The King of Kings nd Lord of Lords is watching u oh!
He never sleeps nor slumbers!
He is watching!
Hahahahahahahaa!!! See me o! My hands are clean!
PP why take away the sun this morning?
I saw what you did there!
And pinky I saw what U did there abi…side eyed at U!!! Rainbow pinky spread rainbows instead so Nepa wouldn’t take light on KD for another 2 days ooo! I don tell u
Ooooh Kryssss. I didn’t get until u said that shii *ROTFLMAO
Till he insists on 24/7 attention, and like a phantom, he’s always calling, and wants to know everywhere you go. That., isn’t cute. Its suffocating.
Those are the jealous insecure ones with a boring life.
Some are just the cutest!
But hes really looking good tho’…..and the Fisher guy is sooooo fine…!
5years n still counting
Biko where ds pple dey baff or which soap dem dey use.
Hmmm his legs still sexy and I would rather make films in NY to be close to him!!! Boo why don’t u let him fly all around the world WITH U!! If u love him dat much ie
He doesn’t fly around the world with me because people push the boo aside in a bid to talk to him… He doesn’t want to subject him to that…
*fly around the world with him*
Hmmmmmmm…typo or not?? I wonder.
I read this story. His boyfriend’s part on how they met is equally beautiful. I just love and envy them.
lovely..
Not sure I could date some 22 years older though, but they seem fairly happy together 🙂 🙂
D 2-5 yrs older/younger U hv bin dating, do u guys hv a good story like ds?
Dude I’m not attacking you.
My point is age shouldn’t b a defining factor.
Ehrm, I haven’t said everyone should date people their age group, have I?..
There’s something called preference..
Films only in New York.. Hian..
That’s cute!
Yeah, they’re so in love, they’re so cute, how sweet…….#bullshit, now that its out there I give another year. And yea daddies are smoking hot.
Lol…Someone’s a pessimist
Wishing them bliss while praying that there won’t be a part 2. Pinky in case part 2 happens please be gracious enough to inform us