IF YOU ARE GAY, DON’T LIVE IN A SMALL TOWN

others 10You were born here, in this gentle little town where traffic means six cars, each two kilometres apart, cruising to their destinations five minutes to schedule. This gentle little town where birdsong on the windowsill heralds the mornings and the whoosh of the wind through cashew and mango trees is the height of noise pollution; where you attended secondary school with the same peeps from primary school; where fifteen of your schoolteachers belong to your modest church of decent folk straight from a daytime soap opera and each time they said hello to your parents after service, you tensed, expecting them to report a misdeed from school; where the only Mr. Biggs place is located three local government areas away from home and KFC, Shoprite, the cinema and GAYS are simply unheard of.

It is for the last of that list above that you should leave your small town, if you are gay. Homosexuality is a modern invention, you see, a by-product of (Western) civilization; researchers have long concluded that the more local a place is, the less likely TBs exist there. Go to your village or any of these small towns like, uh, Ajaokuta – that’s where we have the decrepit steel company in Kogi State, right? – do the inhabitants look like they know what QAF, The DL Chronicles or The L Word are? Do the guys there carry man-bags? Have you ever heard of TBs in Jigawa State or Okitipupa? Ok, remember when 2go was reigning…did anybody ever type in THAT chatroom: Manly bottoms in Chibok add me I got it big… Or Akoko-Edo guys let’s meet now. Like seriously.

Please do not dull yourself, otherwise OYO is your case. Continue reading

#HowToGetAwayWithMurder’s Jack Falahee Not Worried About Being Typecast In Gay Roles

ABC's 2014 Summer TCA Tour PortraitsJack Falahee, who plays gay law student Connor Walsh on ABC’s How To Get Away With Murder, says that he’s not worried about being typecast in gay roles.

Peter Nowalk, who created the Shonda Rhimes executive produced show, previously said that Murder would not shy away from showing gay sex because “it’s part of life.”

In the show’s pilot, Connor is seen picking up, then bedding Oliver (played by Conrad Ricamora), an informant for a murder case. In subsequent episodes, Connor and Oliver appear to be developing a relationship. Continue reading

Top Benchmark LGBT Films That Got People Talking

In the ongoing struggle for equality, LGBT rights have inspired some amazing fictional and documentary films over the years. Here are the top benchmark LGBT films that got people talking around the world.

Brokeback MountainbrokebaqckThe year 2005 was just right to make this movie. Massachusetts, in 2004, became the first state to legalize same-sex marriage, the U.S. military was looking pretty weak without full inclusion, and Hollywood was untested when it came to workaday depictions of masculinity. Heath Ledger and Jake Gyllenhaal played Ennis and Jack, Wyoming cowboys, who shocked each other — and audiences — by having sex in a pup tent in the mountains. Debates on decency roiled across the news shows, critics rang in with support, people stampeded to local cinemas to see an old-fashioned love story of kisses, betrayal, and Old West archetypes reconstructed with two men at the center, deeply in love. It’s also just a fantastic film full of sadness and longing set against the gorgeous backdrop of the Rockies. Continue reading

GOD OF THE SEA

FOREWORD: Guess what, folks… Chestnut has written his first piece for KD. It’s a work of fiction, and loaded with so much wit and humour, I couldn’t help my laughter as I read. It was reading I thoroughly enjoyed, and I’m sure y’all will to. Check on it – God Of The Sea.

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6310345057_a1de92329e_zI think I smelled him before I saw him. It was a heady scent, strong enough to command attention, but subtle enough not to be overpowering; the kind of scent you knew came in a fancy, expensive-looking bottle, with a fancy, expensive-looking designer label.

That morning, as I drove to the hotel where the seminar was to hold, I didn’t imagine anything of significance would happen that day. I thought it would be just a seminar, like I had attended a hundred times before. I was wrong.

As I sat listening to the opening speech by Dr. Hassan Arogundade, I kept fighting the urge to bring out my phone and start scrolling through my favourite blogs; I was that bored already. And then I smelled him. It was strange, because I was remotely aware that other participants who came in later than I did had been taking seats behind me. But when he came in and took a seat two rows behind me, my awareness was no longer remote; it was fully present, even though I didn’t turn my head to look. It was definitely his perfume that first caught my attention. I’m normally not big on perfume; I never even wear it myself. A good deodorant stick and body-spray has always been good enough for me, but this…this heady scent coming from behind me had me in a strange mixture of alertness and numbness, almost like I was on the verge of getting drunk, but not quite. Continue reading

The World Hates Gay People Less Than Ever Before, Reports New Survey

g-stay1A new survey has found that acceptance of gay people is up in 90 percent of countries surveyed over the last 20 years.

Researchers at the University of Chicago and the LGBT think-thank Williams Institute at UCLA examined the results of hundreds of surveys on attitudes toward gay men and lesbians in 52 countries collected since 1981. What they found was that acceptance of gays has gone up by an average of about 1 percent per year since 1994.

“This study shows a clear trend toward increasing acceptance across the globe,” Andrew Park, director of International Programs at the Williams Institute, said in a statement. Continue reading

Man Crush Monday: Morris Chestnut

Morris Chestnut 03Brian Collins has revealed his ultimate man crush. And he chose well. I never really knew much about Morris’s sexiness, nor did I care much for him, until Brian sent me his pictures. And I was like, whoa! Where did all that hot tastiness come from?

But I’m still not budging from Idris and Tyson, thank you very much.

Here’s what Brian has to say about his hottie. “If there ever were a black Greek god, he would look like this. Those eyes, big lush lips, nice man boobs, beautifully formed packs and that bald cut he likes. Like Olaf said, ‘There are things worth melting for’, what better than this?”

Indeed. What better thing to melt for than this? Continue reading

“To My Doubting Detractors, I Pray For You.” Man Who Says He Was Delivered From Being Gay In Viral Video Speaks Out

gay no moreAll week, people have been talking about the video of a young man standing at the altar in church, saying that he was delivered from homosexuality. At the recent Church of God In Christ (COGIC) convocation event last week, the COGIC’s 107th, the young man walked to the altar and asked to share his story in front of the congregation. The 21-year-old’s testimony went viral and caused a great deal of controversy, and now, that young man is speaking out about everything. His name is Andrew Caldwell, and he recently posted a statement on his Facebook page sharing some of his back-story (and promoting his books…yes, he’s an author). He let people know what drove him to the altar during that convocation, as well as how he’s dealing with all the attention.

“My name is Andrew Caldwell. I appeared on a video at the recent Church of God In Christ International Convocation in St Louis. On that video I gave a testimony of deliverance from homosexuality. As a child, I was raped by a member of my own family. At that time I did not think of it as abuse. I kind of enjoyed it. I kept it to myself, not realizing how it had changed me. Growing up wasn’t a pleasant experience. I was harassed, heckled, and ridiculed by classmates. Many told me that I would never amount to anything. This gave me the motivation to try to prove them wrong. Being fairly attractive as a young man, it was not difficult for me to get involved with other men. I have dated athletes, ministers, and celebrities. As time passed I got tired of this way of living. I always attended church. But I always found the same things in church that I found in the world. After joining my present church, it came to me that this lifestyle was not right. It seemed that the more I tried to quit on my own, the more intense was the temptation. All last week I fasted and prayed. On this past Saturday at the Convocation, there was an altar call. I came forward and offered my testimony. It was unscripted. Not only do I hope for my own deliverance but for the deliverance of others who may be struggling with their own issues. To my doubting detractors, I pray for you. To my supporters, I am grateful for your support and prayers.”

Caldwell also did an interview with the blog show Church Folk Revolution Radio, and calling it interesting would be an understatement. Here are the points that really stood out (FYI: how you read his comments are exactly how he said them): Continue reading