When I was flirting with the idea of opening Kito Diaries, I informed a friend of mine, in order to get his reaction to the impending development, and he sneeringly told me: ‘It will just turn out to be another hook-up site for guys.’
I recoiled from his implication that ultimately, nothing matters to a gathering of LGBT except getting acquainted and the satisfaction of their sexual desires. I told him off for that presumption.
Yesterday, I got his ‘I told you so’ response.
Now, I have absolutely nothing against Kitodiariesians wanting to know one another outside the virtual world of the blog. Heck, I have made one or two friends from here, good people who I didn’t know before the advent of the blog. And nothing pleases me more than the freedom of interaction that thrives in this place.
But please – and I know my next words are going to be very unpopular with a lot of readers – this recent trend of littering the comment thread with blatant overtures such as ‘Hey, are you anywhere near FCT’ is inappropriate. There is a reason I exist as the Admin. There is a reason I keep making my email address available to everyone. If you fancy someone on the blog, kindly email me your interest, and I’ll make contact with this person, get feedback and pass it on to you. Some readers already know this, and have been sending me on these assignments Behind The Scenes, without splashing their interests so publicly on the blog.
I’m kindly asking for this level of thirstiness to stop.
And then, there is this issue of impersonation. Every blog identity of every commenter on this blog has been picked and fashioned into a personality unique to the commenter. And the fact that anyone feels the need to borrow these pseudonyms, wear them and try to pass themselves off – intentionally or unwittingly – as who they are not in the virtual world says a lot about who they truly are in the real world. King is who he is. Chizzie is who he is. No one can do them better than they can. So, if you want to comment, and you do not want to pick an identity that is uniquely yours, why bother?
In this vein, Chizzie (the REAL Chizzie) has informed me to let it be known that when he does decide to come back, he’ll be calling himself ‘FKA Chizzie’ (Formerly Known As Chizzie).
When he does decide to come back…
See what I did there? This is for those who think I have the power to block anyone from commenting on KD. What is this, Facebook? Before you get on the ‘crucify Pink Panther for being such a dictator’ bandwagon over Chizzie’s not-so-subtle indictment that I blocked him from KD, you might want to ask him what happened first.
There. I’m done. Have a good day, folks. And may God bless the LGBT.