Mother Theresa (1910 – 1997) was a Catholic nun of Albanian origin, who lived in India for most of her life. She founded the missionaries of charity, a Roman Catholic religious organization which as at 2012 had become active in over 130 countries worldwide. She and her nuns dedicated their lives to caring for the sick and bringing comfort to the dying. She was proclaimed a living saint not only by Catholics, but also by Protestants, Jews, Muslims, Hindus and Buddhists, and was popularly known by all as ‘the saint of the gutter.’ Mother Teresa was the recipient of numerous honours including the 1979 Nobel Peace Prize. In 2003, she was beatified as “Blessed Teresa of Calcutta”.
To me, if there was ever a ripe, juicy peach, a kind-hearted woman who lived a phenomenal life, devoted to the poor and downtrodden, to peace and the end of violence such as Mother Teresa was it.
But this peach did not lack haters. I’m not talking about haters who make occasional snide remarks or sponsor one or two vitriolic press releases against her whenever they are tired of purging their bad belles in their personal lavatories. Oh no! It was far worse than that. In 1994, two British journalists, Christopher Hitchens and Tariq Ali, produced a critical British Channel 4 documentary about her. And guess what it was titled? HELL’S ANGEL. That one no do o! Hitchens later published The Missionary Position: Mother Teresa in Theory and Practice, a pamphlet which repeated many of the accusations in the documentary. Someone actually went to press and published an entire book criticizing her, one fellow named Chatterjee, and the book was titled THE FINAL VERDICT.
Sorry o! My bad, if that long lecture made you fall asleep and dribble pink saliva all over the marble floors of Kito Diaries. Now let’s get to the point of all this. I’ll begin by asking you a question. What do you think that you could ever be or become that will make EVERYONE love you and NO ONE hate you?
Sorry to break your hearts, darlings. But the answer is NOTHING.
I didn’t come to hype religion or the Catholic Church. I only used the case in point to demonstrate one hard truth: everyone CANNOT love you. And honey, this is one bitter pill you have simply got to swallow, so that you can allow yourself to begin to LIVE. Become a nun, spend all your life caring for the poor, sick and homeless, you will still have enemies. Christ was hated and killed, so go figure.
You really, really, really want to be loved and accepted as you are. But sadly this will never ever happen, at least not in your lifetime. So you have two choices. It’s either you spend all your days in self-loathing, wishing and wanting affection and acceptance you will never have. Or you can wipe your tears, take life as you see it and move on. The whole world hates you. The very minimum you can do is LOVE yourself, and then you will have the love of at least one person. And really, that’s the only love you will ever be sure of. In that same vein, you ought to practice what you preach. Why should they accept what even you can’t accept? (i.e. yourself).
Stop eating the bread of tears and drinking from the darkest pots of misery. I dare you to rise like the phoenix from the fire and ashes!
Smack yourself in the face and say, “You have got to stop this! Stop this! And LIVE!”
Develop immunity to the homophobic bacteria threatening your homeostasis. Let your skin become tougher than dragon hide, impenetrable to spears and arrows flying towards your heart.
If you are not strong enough, remember the number three most important rules of business which to me are also the most important rules in life. Location! Location! Location! You live in hateful environment? Change location. Have hateful friends? Change your friends. Whatever and whoever takes away your happiness, biko dislocate or relocate. It’s hard, you say. Well, everyone has one difficulty or the other in life. Be brave!
And above all, be happy! It’s the only debt you owe yourself.
A final word: Mother Teresa had a short response to her critics. She said, “No matter who says what, you should accept it with a smile and do your own work.”
Written by Sensei