Being gay is a very difficult life to live; it is extremely tough, which is why I find it funny when close-minded bigots refer to homosexuality as a conscious choice or a learned reflex that can also be “unlearned”! Such ignorance. Homophobia in Nigeria cuts across generations, but there is one way to punch homophobes in the face; becoming successful. Nothing annoys homophobes more than a successful “faggot” (pardon my language).
I am currently dating an amazing guy who changed the way I look at love and life. He is a geek of the highest order and works as an engineer specializing in fixing heavy duty vehicles. There is no other person in the entire Rivers State, Nigeria who can fix the kind of cars that he fixes, so he is some sort of hot cake. Now he works in yellow coveralls (the rest of the technicians wear black), his helmet has a Hannah Montana sticker on it and he works in pink patent leather safety boots, swinging his hips to the beat of Beyoncé’s rhythm anytime he is working. I know his colleagues probably know he is gay, they obviously talk behind his back, and some customers cringe in disgust when he talks to them about their cars, demonstrating with his hands (lol). In spite of all this though, they cannot do without him because of his skills and expertise which are unmatched. So after all the judging and disgust, they still come for his services and I always tell him that he intentionally rubs his femininity in their faces.
I also remember one of my friends (a smart business man) who bought a brand new SUV. He drove me and some other guys to a bar on a street where he had been called faggot before to “wash” it. Boy, did we celebrate! The same area boys who called him names were watching while we drank and partied with expensive drinks. Guess who came around eventually to ask for drinks? The same name calling boys!
So what is my point you may be asking; well consider this a clarion call. Make up your mind to be successful, to be the best you can be. If you are in school, graduate on top of the class and watch those who called you names battle with extra semesters. In your career, decide to be the best, get more education and get to the zenith.
Imagine for a moment running into that boy who pushed you around in the high school hallway, calling you faggot, ten years later and you are a high flying business executive and he a janitor. Imagine that satisfaction that would provide (lol okay I am a little evil but you get my point). Each and every one of us should be determined to make something out of our lives and through our successes throw punches in the face of bigots.
Written by Dennis Macaulay; Dennis Macaulay works as a Brand Executive in Port Harcourt. Follow him on twitter @Eko_Bloke
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